timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Share Posted June 10, 2006 I'm totally against the idea of self improvement. Why should I better myself into what society expects me to be? That puts too much pressure on me and I'm not happy. I'm actually happy just the way I am now. I like myself despite what anyone else thinks about me. I can almost guarantee that I would be very unhappy if I tried to better myself. I don't hurt anybody. I'm a law abiding citizen. That's all that matters to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 10, 2006 Share Posted June 10, 2006 Then don't change. But if you don't change, you don't grow. It's up to you though. We all have things about ourselves we can improve upon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Author Share Posted June 10, 2006 I don't see anything rewarding about growth. Link to post Share on other sites
Author timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Author Share Posted June 10, 2006 I don't believe in striving for perfection either because it's unattainable. I'm not going to burden myself with those kind of goals. It's been my experience that when I've tried to improve myself into what society or women expect me to be then the changes are only temporary. A person has to get to the point of not liking himself in order to make changes that stick. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 10, 2006 Share Posted June 10, 2006 I don't believe in striving for perfection either because it's unattainable. I'm not going to burden myself with those kind of goals. Then don't. I didn't say we should strive for perfection, just improvement. If you don't see anything rewarding about growth then stay the same. But I don't think you can stay the same. Life's experiences change us whether we want to change or not. It's up to you whether you let them change you for the better or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Author Share Posted June 10, 2006 Then don't. I didn't say we should strive for perfection, just improvement. If you don't see anything rewarding about growth then stay the same. But I don't think you can stay the same. Life's experiences change us whether we want to change or not. It's up to you whether you let them change you for the better or not. I think it's a conscious choice to change. Life experiences do not change anybody. The only way I can see myself making permanent changes is when the pain of staying where I am is much worse than the pain of change. All change is painful but if the pain of staying where I am is greater then that will motivate me to make changes that stick. But most of the time I'm in a comfort zone by staying where I am. I find that I don't desire to change at all when I'm being bombarded by pressure from others around me to change. That in itself is what wanes my desire to change Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 10, 2006 Share Posted June 10, 2006 A person has to get to the point of not liking himself in order to make changes that stick. No Timidity. It's because you do like yourself that you seek to improve. And you don't do it for others, you do it for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author timidity99 Posted June 10, 2006 Author Share Posted June 10, 2006 No Timidity. It's because you do like yourself that you seek to improve. And you don't do it for others, you do it for yourself. I disagree. If you like yourself then you see no reason to change anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 10, 2006 Share Posted June 10, 2006 I think it's a conscious choice to change. Life experiences do not change anybody. The only way I can see myself making permanent changes is when the pain of staying where I am is much worse than the pain of change. All change is painful but if the pain of staying where I am is greater then that will motivate me to make changes that stick. But most of the time I'm in a comfort zone by staying where I am. I find that I don't desire to change at all when I'm being bombarded by pressure from others around me to change. That in itself is what wanes my desire to change I don't agree. It's not always a conscious choice. Our experiences mold and change us. I really believe this. We start reacting to things differently, based on previous experiences. You'd have to almost be dead or in a coma to not be changed somehow by life's experiences. Or maybe if you never had any contact with the outside world, you'd never change. I mean I don't know how old you are. I'll assume you're out of your teens. Are you the same now as when you were a teenager? Did you set out to change or did you just change? Link to post Share on other sites
GuestGirl Posted June 10, 2006 Share Posted June 10, 2006 I'm Confused.. I Don't See The Bases For Your Post. I Think That Ppl Are Trying To Give Very Good Advise Yet You're Being Very Pessimistic To Their Constructive Advice. Why? It Makes A Lot Of Sense What They Are Saying And It Can Be Very Helpful. You Don't Like Change Well Can You Imagine A World W/out Change? You Don't Want To Change Yourself? However, You Need To Buy Clothe For Yourself, Correct? That's A Change.. B/c Your Clothe Got Old... One More Thing.. Let's Assume That We Never Died, Are You Going To Tell Me That If You Lived Back In The Time Of The Apes You Would Still Be An Ape? Did You Change Your Walkman To An Ipod? Change Is Good.. It's Growth It's Evolution!!!! And We As Humans Need To Evolve As Well..... Self Pride Is Another Good Reason For CHANGE... Link to post Share on other sites
RarePearl Posted June 10, 2006 Share Posted June 10, 2006 I'm totally against the idea of self improvement. Why should I better myself into what society expects me to be? That puts too much pressure on me and I'm not happy. I'm actually happy just the way I am now. I like myself despite what anyone else thinks about me. I can almost guarantee that I would be very unhappy if I tried to better myself. I don't hurt anybody. I'm a law abiding citizen. That's all that matters to me.Most people grow and change by learning to fake quality! As long as you're not hurting anyone other than yourself (you might hurt someone else by hurting yourself too!!!), you experience changes slowly, spontaneously and gradually. Twenty years from now, you will realize that you changed a lot. But you don't have to tailor your personality according to the society's taste. Moreover, most of the time people don't behave the way they expect YOU to behave. And only god knows what's in their minds. Link to post Share on other sites
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