Co-workers B/F extremely rude and obnoxious

[jenniferlm]

I have this co-worker whose B/F was extremely rude while he was waiting to pick her up from work...Not being one to just suck it up and walk away, I was rude back.

The problem is now I have to deal with this girl and one of her friends at work. They are unfortunately as rude, obnoxious, and offensive (language) as he is. Birds of a feather I guess.

Any advice on how to deal with people like this? I've never really encountered a situation like this before. I plan on discussing this with my boss on Monday, and would like some advice on how to approach him with this.

[Guest]

Your boss probably isn't interested in dealing with personality conflicts at work. If you're lucky, he may listen to you and tell you how to deal with it. But he may tell you, "Look, just do your job and ignore her."

 

A lot of bosses expect you to handle your interpersonal affairs on your own. If you've had a conflict with this girl, try talking to her one to one. Say to her, "Look, I think we got off on the wrong foot," and offer to take her to lunch. Try to be the bigger person.

 

You may never have a lot in common and you may not want her as a friend. But it's your job to figure out how to work with this person.

 

Maybe you'll be lucky and things will turn around and you will actually like each other!

 

If this girl is making life miserable for you or interfering with your work and your boss is not helpful, this is when you talk to someone at Human Resources about being harrassed.

 

In the future, try not to lose your temper at your job. You can be direct and firm with people, but blowing up is very unprofessional and leads to a lot of other problems.

[most]

I would just let it go. Do not involve your boss. It will just make you the better person in the long run. I'm not saying you should put up with their crap, I'm just make yourself the better person by not letting it make you petty. In time their relationship will fall apart & she will look for peoples approval in the ones that are not on his side of things. You know...to make herself look like the bigger person.

Example: I showed him!

This will take her attention off of you. Just hang in there.