SmoochieFace Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Alphamale's stance is rooted in a fear of being vulnerable - and that fear doesn't cut it in a *real* relationship. If you can't be vulnerable then you can't be in a real relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 What I find ironic, is that (and I'm willing to put money on this) all the women have dumped a guy who made mistakes that Amerikajin has warned about. I think it bolis down to them seeing the manifestation as being different from the root cause, though. I know those were mistakes I made when I was younger and have thus learned not to. -R- Then if she dumps you, so be it. Why is it so terrible to not be with someone who doesn't appreciate you? Not every female will like you or your personality and vise sersa. I can't see spending time with someone just to score when you are so afraid she will dump you. People get dumped. What guys need to realize is if YOU don't like them then don't be with them, including just for sex. Don't wait for her to dump you because you want to get to the goods. You are being lead by your dick. Be the man you say you are and find a compatable women. The thing is, you need to know what you want and what you will torerate. I advocate understanding yourself and forget the "rules". Link to post Share on other sites
elijahBailey Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 There is a lot of truth in what Amerikajin said. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 It seems most of the women on here are opposed to the "theory" of the OP and most men agree. Lets face it women, we have our strategies too that you know men would be opposed to. I don't think the OP is trying to offend anyone, just saying his experience in catching and keeping a women. There are flaws in it because of course he is just one person he can't possibly have found the hidden key to every women's heart. I can see where he is coming from on some areas. It might not make sense to hear it, but it just might work if you didn't know there was a hidden agenda. I completely do not agree that a man should keep his mouth shut and not express his feelings, although I can see where he is coming from in that women are notorious for flying off the handle if we don't hear what we want or get our way, but I really don't think that one should not speak, I think the two people in a relationship should talk things out and learn to both keep their mouth shut when listening, and then considering everything you've heard when speaking. Its a give and take kind of thing, as everything else is in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 It seems most of the women on here are opposed to the "theory" of the OP and most men agree. Lets face it women' date=' we have our strategies too that you know men would be opposed to. .[/quote'] If you go to the self-help section on dating and reltionships at the bookstore there are 20 books geared towards women for every one book geared towards men. WTF is that all about? Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 If you go to the self-help section on dating and reltionships at the bookstore there are 20 books geared towards women for every one book geared towards men. WTF is that all about? Maybe women are more complicated than men?? Sounds like you spend alot of time in the self help section Link to post Share on other sites
Sapiens Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Sounds like you spend alot of time in the self help section That was uncalled for! Maybe women are more complicated than men?? Yeah, that's why they need all the misery and drama. Woe is me, blah, blah, blah... -Sapiens Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 That was uncalled for! Yeah, that's why they need all the misery and drama. Woe is me, blah, blah, blah... -Sapiens Damn you sound very uptight Sap! Maybe take a nice hot shower or something.. just a suggestion. I was playing w/alpha and he knows it. Some women do have alot of drama, but so do some men. I personally hate drama and will run far away if I see it coming. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Damn you sound very uptight Sap! Maybe take a nice hot shower or something.. just a suggestion. . Can't blame me, I haven't got good head in over a week. That's what happens to me when I go cold turkey. No to worry I am working on it though. Thanks for the suggestion.. -Sapiens Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I was playing w/alpha and he knows it. yes I do know it... I personally hate drama and will run far away if I see it coming. everyone says this T'sA....but why is everyone going on roller coasters and watching The Sopranos and rubber-necking when they see an accident on the freeway? explain that to me. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 everyone says this T'sA....but why is everyone going on roller coasters and watching The Sopranos and rubber-necking when they see an accident on the freeway? explain that to me. totally different kind of drama Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 yes I do know it... everyone says this T'sA....but why is everyone going on roller coasters and watching The Sopranos and rubber-necking when they see an accident on the freeway? explain that to me. Well I don't know what kind of drama Sap was talking about. I am talking about emotional drama, like the kind of drama you see while watching a daytime soap opera Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 If you go to the self-help section on dating and reltionships at the bookstore there are 20 books geared towards women for every one book geared towards men. WTF is that all about? Maybe because women are more likely to buy and read a book about relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Maybe because women are more likely to buy and read a book about relationships. Hmmm good point Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 totally different kind of drama bulls*** CG1927....drama is drama. It causes excitement and anxiety and fear and gets the hormones raging....whether it on the big screen, from an amusement ride or from a f***ed-up lover, or from doing drugs or driving 125mph in rush hour traffic. Its all the same baby! Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 bulls*** CG1927....drama is drama. It causes excitement and anxiety and fear and gets the hormones raging....whether it on the big screen, from an amusement ride or from a f***ed-up lover, or from doing drugs or driving 125mph in rush hour traffic. Its all the same baby! Thats not drama that is a adrenaline. You get the same rush from all those things you mentioned above, but different things can cause it. I would HARDLY put rollor coasters in the same category as Days of our Lives Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 bulls*** CG1927....drama is drama. It causes excitement and anxiety and fear and gets the hormones raging....whether it on the big screen, from an amusement ride or from a f***ed-up lover, or from doing drugs or driving 125mph in rush hour traffic. Its all the same baby! Um, no it's not. A roller coaster does nothing for my hormones, that's kind of a silly thing to say. I enjoy a good movie but don't want to live it. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I would HARDLY put rollor coasters in the same category as Days of our Lives Why? The physiological and psychological effect can be the same regardless of the stimuli... Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Why? The physiological and psychological effect can be the same regardless of the stimuli... Ok, lemme break this down... Alpha, do you like rollor coasters? Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I think AM is just arguing to argue now. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Ok' date=' lemme break this down... Alpha, do you like rollor coasters?[/quote'] to me there is no difference between the effects from a roller-coaster relationship and the effects from a roller-coaster. The former may last years and the latter may last 2 minutes but the effect on the body and the brain is the same. I think AM is just arguing to argue now. I am not! i really believe this. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Well, AM, they may be the same for you but they're not for me. I love roller coasters, they are SO much fun. But a failed relationship is NOT fun. Fights are not fun. Real life drama is not fun for me. I like for things to go well and smoothly. Life is hard enough without a bunch of manufactured crap. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Fights are not fun. Real life drama is not fun for me. some people thrive on it... Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 to me there is no difference between the effects from a roller-coaster relationship and the effects from a roller-coaster. The former may last years and the latter may last 2 minutes but the effect on the body and the brain is the same. Well, you didn't answer the question, but I'm gonna guess, for the sake of the arguement, that you do. So because you like rollor coasters, does that autimatically mean you like picking fights with your girlfriend because you like the drama of fighting, or that you want to marry a women who has 5 kids from 5 different men so you can have baby daddy drama? I think not... I don't even really know anymore what point your trying to make. lol Now, I'm just making my point... Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Then if she dumps you, so be it. Why is it so terrible to not be with someone who doesn't appreciate you? Not every female will like you or your personality and vise sersa. I can't see spending time with someone just to score when you are so afraid she will dump you. People get dumped. What guys need to realize is if YOU don't like them then don't be with them, including just for sex. Don't wait for her to dump you because you want to get to the goods. You are being lead by your dick. Be the man you say you are and find a compatable women. The thing is, you need to know what you want and what you will torerate. I advocate understanding yourself and forget the "rules". It's not necessarilly about the dick. Look, women are so complex they often outwit themselves through emotional outbursts. We just need ways to sort of give them a gentle nudge in the right direction. Think of these tips as tools to get you through those "times of the month" when she is prone to making rash decisions. It's no coincidince that there are 12 rules. Thats right. See, he forgot rule #12; Lay the pipe strong, and right. -R- Link to post Share on other sites
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