Well Did He Cheat? What Do You Say?

[AMBERINVEGAS]

I'M 37 JOEL IS 35. JOEL WORKS AT HOME DEPOT. A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO I WAS TIPPED BY A FRIEND AT HOME DEPOT. HE SAID, "I DONT' WANT YOU TO GET HURT BUT I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING.

 

THERE IS A GIRL NAMES TARA OR TERA WHO JOEL AND HER HAVE BEEN TEXT MESSAGING BACK AND FORTH AND CALLING EACH OTHER ON THEIR CELL PHONES. OK, GOOD TIP...NOW WHAT?

 

ON APRIL 24 THIS PAST APRIL 24 2006. HE LEFT TO GO TO HIS SISTERS HOUSE "SO HE SAID". I HAVE PANIC ATTACKS AND JUST HAD THAT WEIRD FEELING THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG. I TEXTED MESSAGED HIM EVERY HOUR AND CALLED AND LEFT MESSAGES EVERY HOUR UNTIL HE EMERGED AT 3 AM.

 

I ASKED WHAT DID HE DO AT HIS SISTERS, HE SAID THAT HE AND HIS BROTHER JUST FLIPPED THROUGH THE CHANNEL AND WERE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING TO WATCH.

 

I ASKED...I HAD BEEN TEXTING YOU AND CALLING YOU FROM 7:30 PM UNTIL 3AM, YOU NEVER RESONDED ONCE. OK.

 

THAT NIGHT I CHECK HIS TRUCK. THERE IS A FOAM BEER COOLER AND SLEEPING BAG IN THE BACK SEAT. I ASKED "WHY DO YOU HAVE A COOLER IN THE BACK OF YOUR TRUCK WITH BEER STILL INSIDE AND A SLEEPING BAG? HIS ANSWER! WELL MY SISTER DOESN'T HAVE ENOUGH ROOM IN HER FRIDGE SO I BOUGHT A COOLER. ALTHOUGH HE SAID HIS SISTER WAS FAST ASLEEP.

 

OK, SO I FIND A RECIEPT FOR GAS WHICH IS NO WHERE CLOSE TO HIS SISTERS HOUSE AT 9PM AND THEN A RECEIPT FOR BEER FROM A STORE RIGHT NEXT TO HOME DEPOT )RED FLAG ANYONE)?

 

I ASKED HIM ABOUT IT...HE PLAY STUPID AND COULD NOT ANSWER. FINE!

 

I CHECK TMOBILE ONLINE, I SEE AT 2AM ON APRIL 24 WHICH WOULD BE APRIL 25 HE WAS ON THE PHONE WITH TERA-TARA FOR 20 MINUTES.

 

I CONFRONT...HE SAID, HE DOESN'T REMEMBER THE CONVERSATION. L. A. M.E

 

OK, I GET MAD, HE DENY DENY DENY DENY.

 

SO I PULL TMOBILE BILLING AND IN AND OUT CALLS AND MESSENGING FOR THAT MONTH. EVERYDAY FROM ANYWHERE FROM 5-15 TIMES THROUGH OUT THE DAY, THEY TALK.

 

OK, I CHECK HIS PHONE..I FEEL CREEPY BUT YOU GOTTA DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO.

 

FOUND A MESSAGE THAT NIGHT THAT SAID FROM TERA-TARA- HEY MY HUSBAND IS OUT OF TOWN, DO YOU WANT TO HOOK UP AND START WHERE WE LEFT OFF.

 

OK, CONFRONTATION TIME...HE SAID HE DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT THE TEXT, AND CANT UNDERSTAND WHY SHE WANTS TO GO OUT TO DINNER WITH HIM.

 

WELL, I TEXT HER SAYING LEAVE HIM ALONE. SHE SAYS "BITCH IT'S NOT MY FAULT YOU CANT SATISFY YOUR MAN AND I HAVE TO. AT FIRST I WAS NICE AND POINTED OUT THAT SHE WAS MARRIED WITH A CHILD. THAT DID NOT PHASE HER.

 

SHE SAID THEY HAVE f***ED ON NUMEROUS TIMES.

 

SO I CONFRONT JOEL AGAIN. NOW ITS MY FAULT BECAUSE I SHOULD NOT BE TALKING TO HER BECAUSE SHE IS LIEING AND I SHOULD BELEIVE HIM.

 

A 3AM PHONE CALL, PLUS NUMEROUS CALLS LATE AT NIGHT TO AND FROM EACH OTHER.

 

IT CAME TO A HEAD FRIDAY. I FOUND SHE IS MOVING INTO HIS DEPARTMENT AND WILL BE WORKING SIDE BY SIDE. WITH EACH OTHER. I ASKED JOEL, HE SAID WELL SHE TEXT MESSAGED ME.

 

I SAID, SHE DOESN'T NEED TO TEXT YOU, YOU CAN WALK IN TUESDAY TO FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF.

 

OK, SO LAST NIGHT FRIDAY JUNE 2. 2006 I TEXT MESSAGED HER AND SAID THERE WAS NO NEED TO TEXT HIM, PLEASE STOP.

 

SHE SAID AND I QUOTE AND I CAN SEND THESE TEXT TO THIS SITE.

 

SHE SAID YOUR FAT AND UGLY AND I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY HE DOESN'T WANT TO WAKE UP TO YOU. (IM 5'2 132 AND AVERAGE.

 

I TOLD HER SHE HAS NO PROOF THAT THEY HAD SEX...SHE BLEW IT WIDE OPEN.

 

SHE SAID "REMEMBER THE TIME HE WENT TO HIS SISTERS? WE f***ED THEN. REMEMBER WHEN HE SAID HE HAD TO GO PICK UP HIS TOOLS, WE f***ED THEN.

 

SHE SAID HE WORE NO UNDERWEAR (WHICH HE DOESN'T) SHE DESCRIBED IN DETAIL EVERYTHING THAT HE WORE.

 

SHE MENTIONED THE BEER COOLER/ SLEEPING BAG AND SO ON.

 

SHE SAID HE WANTS HER. HE DENIES EVERYTHING SAYING SHE IS A LIAR. BUT, MY TMOBILE BILLS CONFIRM EXACTLY HOW MANY TIMES THEY TALK. PLUS SHE CAME CLEAN WITH 'DETAILS AND WHAT HE LIKES TO DO TO HER".

 

OK, YOU WOULD NOT KNOW ABOUT THE COOLER AND SLEEPING BAG UNLESS YOU WERE IN HIS TRUCK, IN THE BACK SEAT. YOU WOULD NOT KNOW EXACT DETAIL OF WHAT HE WEARS. YOU WOULD NOT KNOW THAT HE WENT TO HIS SISTERS HOUSE FOR TOOLS UNLESS HE TOLD HER.

 

SHE SAID I AM BEING PLAYED.

 

SHE TOLD ME EVERY SINGLE SEXUAL THING THEY DID AND WHEN AND WHERE.

 

SO SATURDAY JUNE 3, 2006 HE IS MAD AT ME YET AGAIN...SAYING IT'S MY FAULT THAT IM PLAYING HEAD GAMES AND THAT I SHOULD BELIEVE HIM OVER ME.

 

ALSO HE MADE THE COMMENT THAT I'M TOO STUPID TO FIGURE IT OUT (THEM ACCORDING TO HER TEXT MESSAGES TO HIM)

 

HERE IS THE SCARY PART. HE IS VERY AGGRESSIVE AND WILL HURT ME. I BELIEVE IN ALL MY HEART THAT HE WILL KILL ME. THIS IS NO JOKE. HE HAS PUSHED ME THROUGH A GLASS TABLE, SHAKEN ME TILL ME TEETH RATTLE AND PUSHES ME. OF COURSE I PUSH AND HIT RIGHT BACK. HE MIGHT KILL ME, BUT AT LEAST I GOT A FEW GOOD SHOTS IN.

 

SO SEEING HOW EVERYTHING SHE HAS CONFESSED, HE STILL DENY DENY DENY.

 

HE SAID HE WAS ANGRY SHE WAS WORKING WITH HIM. WELL, SHE SAID OTHER WISE, HE CAN'T WAIT. AND FOLLOWS HER AROUND LIKE PUPPY DOG.

 

HEADS UP...ANY AND ALL FEEDBACK IS WELCOME.

 

ONE THING I CAN'T LEAVE THE APARTMENT RIGHT NOW BECAUSE I JUST STARTED A NEW JOB AND HAVEN'T HAD MY FIRST PAYCHECK.

 

WHAT GETS ME IS ALL HE HAS TO DO IS CONFESS AND GO SEE A COUNSELOR.

 

FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANY AND ALL.

 

ANGRY AMBY IN VEGAS.

[whichwayisup]

HERE IS THE SCARY PART. HE IS VERY AGGRESSIVE AND WILL HURT ME. I BELIEVE IN ALL MY HEART THAT HE WILL KILL ME. THIS IS NO JOKE. HE HAS PUSHED ME THROUGH A GLASS TABLE, SHAKEN ME TILL ME TEETH RATTLE AND PUSHES ME. OF COURSE I PUSH AND HIT RIGHT BACK. HE MIGHT KILL ME, BUT AT LEAST I GOT A FEW GOOD SHOTS IN.

 

Most of all, because of this - BREAK UP WITH HIM! Just end it.

 

The guy is SCUM. Not only are you scared of him and he sounds like he has a temper, he is LYING TO YOU. It's obvious. Most people when caught do deny as much as they can - Until they feel they're going to suffer consquences, THEN they confess.

 

Break up with him now. He isn't long term marriage material. He needs help and until he admits this, life is going to be just like this.

 

Also, the fact she is married with a child, have you considered telling her husband that she's with your boyfriend? (I assume this guy is not your husband...If he is, he's breaking his vows to you.)

[littleroom]

The title of your post is "Did He Cheat?"

 

Um... I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say hell yes!

 

It really sounds like you need to get out of this relationship just for the aggressive things alone.

 

Get out!

 

--- littleroom

[norajane]

Sweetheart, you need to get away from this man as fast as you can. He is cheating, lying, and hurting you physically. As soon as you can get another apartment, definitely get away from him and don't ever look back.

[Guest]

FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANY AND ALL.

 

ANGRY AMBY IN VEGAS.[/quote/]

 

Listen to me -- DON'T BREAK UP WITH HIM. DON'T TALK TO HIM ABOUT ANYTHING. GO IMMEDIATELY TO THE COURT HOUSE AND GET A PROTECTIVE ORDER TO KEEP HIM AWAY FROM YOU. TELL THEM ABOUT THE VIOLENCE. HE IS A PSYCHOPATH. DON'T BECOME A STATISTIC. GET A PROTECTIVE ORDER AND DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO GET AWAY FROM HIM. DON'T START ANYTHING WITH HIM. DON'T TRY TO EXPLAIN ANYTHING TO HIM. DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN ANY WAY. JUST TREAT HIM LIKE WHAT HE IS -- A TICKING BOMB. AND GET AWAY FAST, QUIETLY, AND FOREVER.

 

HE IS A PSYCHOPATH AND HE WILL NEVER CHANGE.

[carolineislands]

FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANY AND ALL.

ANGRY AMBY IN VEGAS.[/quote/]

Listen to me -- DON'T BREAK UP WITH HIM. DON'T TALK TO HIM ABOUT ANYTHING. GO IMMEDIATELY TO THE COURT HOUSE AND GET A PROTECTIVE ORDER TO KEEP HIM AWAY FROM YOU. TELL THEM ABOUT THE VIOLENCE. HE IS A PSYCHOPATH. DON'T BECOME A STATISTIC. GET A PROTECTIVE ORDER AND DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO GET AWAY FROM HIM. DON'T START ANYTHING WITH HIM. DON'T TRY TO EXPLAIN ANYTHING TO HIM. DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN ANY WAY. JUST TREAT HIM LIKE WHAT HE IS -- A TICKING BOMB. AND GET AWAY FAST, QUIETLY, AND FOREVER.

HE IS A PSYCHOPATH AND HE WILL NEVER CHANGE.

[ridingthebulls]

Considering you feel an affair is the most damaging problem in this relationship, I guess that you love him? Why? Maybe it's more out of fear than love keeping you there.. I dont know, but yeah, have a place to stay other than his place? I wouldn't confront him either. Let the OW have him and let him beat her up!

[Lennox]

Yes, he did cheat and he's going to cheat and also become abusive to you again. He's a bottom feeder that should be thrown back into the pond. Actually he probably should be thrown in jail, but I'm sure that will come up when he winds up killing his new girlfriend.

 

You remember Nicole Simpson? She got her head almost completely sliced off by the Juice. Don't become a statistic like she did. Go to the police immediately and see what you can do about getting protection from this animal. Don't confront him, just get away from him as stealthy as you can. Do you have family or friends that you can hide from him with?