Guest Posted June 11, 2006 Share Posted June 11, 2006 Yesterday my boyfriend called me at 11:00pm and says his male friend is coming over to play video games with him and that I could come over if I wanted to. I say no, because I don't like video games too much and he knows this. He says ok I'll see you tomorrow then. A hour later I change my mind and decide to head over to his place. I call his cell phone, but it is turned off. So I head over there. As i drive up I see his car driving in the parking lot. He stops his car. I am thinking at this moment that this is funny because he is suppose to be at home. He jumps out the car and starts yelling, "Why are yo following me?" I say, "What are you talking about? You asked me to come over so I decided to." Just then a girl comes out his car. I say, "What is going on? You lied to me you said your male friend was coming over." He says, "Things changed and you said that you weren't coming over." I say, "Your nothing, but a lier and a cheater." The girl says, "Were just friends." and begins to walk toward his apartment. I leave. I'm very upset at this point and begin to cry. I just drive for awhile not knowing where I'm going. I haven't called him since and he hasn't called me. I don't want to call him and am not going to. I don't think he deserves my phone call. Is this cheating? Should I be upset? Link to post Share on other sites
ridingthebulls Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 yeah he's probably cheating! no need to lie if he wasn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 how long have you two been dating? Link to post Share on other sites
JoL Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I'm sorry to say, but he is definately cheating on you...why else would he lie, drive with a girl in his car and invite her up to his apartment? It's such a shame you had to witness that but at least now you can move on with your life and cut the worthless son of a b#tch off and never look back. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 how long have you two been dating? We have been dating for 2 yrs. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 If you've been dating 2 years and you've never met or heard of this 'friend', they are more than 'just friends'. Or maybe he picked her up that night and they were about to become more than just friends. Whatever it is, his first reaction was to yell at you about following him. If he had been in the car with his video game-playing guy friend instead of the girl, would he have freaked out and accused you of following him? If this were really innocent, he would have reacted much differently. He's cheating, he got caught, and he denied it. Now he's not calling you because he knows he f***ed up. You have a right to be upset. And to kick him to the curb. I'm sorry this happened, sweets. All men aren't like this, though, so now you can go out and meet one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 We have been dating for 2 yrs. yikes!...that cheating, pig-dog Link to post Share on other sites
Jools Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I'm sorry to say, but he is definately cheating on you...why else would he lie, drive with a girl in his car and invite her up to his apartment? It's such a shame you had to witness that but at least now you can move on with your life and cut the worthless son of a b#tch off and never look back. One thing you cant say is 'he is definately cheating'. From a single post and even from a whole thread, its not possible for other posters to deal in definates like that. It may 'sound' like he's cheating tho. It sounds a bit dodgy yes, but you need to talk to him about it more, then you have to decide from talking with him, if you think he's telling the truth or not. Link to post Share on other sites
lilbo Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Id say forget about him and find a honest man:sick: Why was his cell phone turned off while he is hanging out with another female? I dunno sure sounds fishy to me. Link to post Share on other sites
ashnicole Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 As horrible as it looks, what if they were just friends? Either way, I'd say it doesn't matter... the point is, he lied to you. No matter what the reason, he lied. So, he's got that under his belt already. Whether he actually cheated or not, only he knows that... but a lie that big, would be enough to make me leave. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 As horrible as it looks, what if they were just friends? Either way, I'd say it doesn't matter... the point is, he lied to you. No matter what the reason, he lied. So, he's got that under his belt already. Whether he actually cheated or not, only he knows that... but a lie that big, would be enough to make me leave. I agree with this. No matter what has actually happened with that girl, he's got a "friend" who is a girl that he is keeping secret from you. There's definitely something going on, you can waste your time trying to discover actual proof that he's cheating and leave then, or you can move on with your life and put this jerk behind you. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I agree with this. No matter what has actually happened with that girl, he's got a "friend" who is a girl that he is keeping secret from you. There's definitely something going on, you can waste your time trying to discover actual proof that he's cheating and leave then, or you can move on with your life and put this jerk behind you. Exactly. If you must hide any "friends" of the opposite sex, then you are probably hiding something else with it. Link to post Share on other sites
ashnicole Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 Exactly. If you must hide any "friends" of the opposite sex, then you are probably hiding something else with it. I agree with that. I don't understand why, if she was just a friend, he couldn't introduce the two of you. Or, why the girl was heading into his apartment, knowing that he obviously has a girlfriend, and not even thinking twice about it. Well, girls are scandelous that way... but even still, there was no reason for him to hide her from you, if in fact they were "just friends." Red flag, honey. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 My boyfriend now i consider my ex finally called me today. I haven't responded to his messages. I don't want to call him. That's what i feel in my heart. He says there is a explanation for what happened. Should i call him? Link to post Share on other sites
Kengne Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 My boyfriend now i consider my ex finally called me today. I haven't responded to his messages. I don't want to call him. That's what i feel in my heart. He says there is a explanation for what happened. Should i call him? I'd love to hear the explanation. Just don't be too quick to believe it. Link to post Share on other sites
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