kit4kat Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 So... its been a while since I've posted here. A lot has happened and school took over, fun stuff! Anyway, here's my situation. I met this guy back in January. He's real sweet, we get along great, everyone I know thinks we'd be perfect together, but, as always, there are surrounding issues.... I have always been kinda interested, but not fully interested. There have been other guys in my life since January. They're all gone now, and none of them were serious. Only recently have he and I begun to talk more and spend a little more time together. A few of my close female friends have speculated that they think he's too arrogant, that he thinks every girl who talks to him wants him. That the reason he's single is because of just that. I happen to disagree. Now, for the past month or so, he's had my attention completely. There have been no other guys in my life and I've taken a pretty strong liking to him now. So, here's my question. As I said before, I don't agree with what some of my female friends think about him. You see, last year he fell hard for two girls, both rejected him. He took one pretty hard, I'm not sure about the second. I'm not sure he's ready to jump back in if he feels all he gets is rejection. Should I wait it out? Drop hints that I won't hurt him? Move on? What's your thinking on this...? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 If he fell for those girls but they rejected him, then he never actually dated them, right? Are you sure he's really still so broken up about it? If you're interested in him, just start flirting with him - eye contact, smiles, small touches. He should pick up on that and ask you out if he's interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kit4kat Posted June 13, 2006 Author Share Posted June 13, 2006 He went on a few dates with both of them. I'm not sure if he's still broken up about it but its obvious to alot of people that he's being really cautious about relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 If he's cautious about relationships because he's afraid of rejection, maybe you should ask him out on a date. That way, you'll be pursuing so he can't really be afraid of rejection. Your other option is to just flirt and wait and see if he becomes comfortable enough with you to trust you won't reject him. That might take longer, but at least you'll know he's ready to date if he asks you out. I don't know how you can drop hints that you won't hurt him. It might be easier to show him...don't flirt with other guys while you're around him, make sure you're consistent about calling when you say you'll call, that kind of thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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