Nezero Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 Hi, I googled talking to girls and I came across this website. Anyway I'm 17, high school student and I work casually at Coles (supermarket chain). This is probably the first girl I'm going after so thats why I'm a bit naive. Story So there is this girl who also works at Coles as a checkout chick (I work in Dairy section, essentially a shelf stacker but for milk etc). So I noticed her a few months ago but didn't really talk to her until recently. Now I'm really interested to get to know her better but I never get the chance to do so cause she always works different days to me and also there isn't much time to talk during work. I got her MSN and I've chatted to her twice but I don't find it that personal. As in when talking to friends from school on MSN you can talk about whatever but its a different story with the girl. So my holidays start next week and go for two weeks (start back 3rd of July) and I'm tempted to ask if she wanted to do something during the holidays (casually, something along the lines of, 'Hey we should do something like see a movie on the holidays') but the problem is that I don't think asking her on MSN is the best way of doing it. But I don't know if I'll get to see her at work during the holidays to ask her. Also I'm working tommorow, and just so it happens that she is working, I don't particularly want others to know I've ask her out to do something. One thing for someone to get said No to but even worse if everyone knows. Also either I'm just wanting her to like me that I think she is or she might be interested. Sometimes when she is working I'll walk past and look and her and she'll look up and look at me. In addition when I asked for her MSN, she asked if I had a pen so she could write it down (email wasn't some random one like special_hearts_supergirl128010@hot....) and then asked for mine. Questions start here Okay, so my first question is how should I got about asking her to do something over the holidays? Secondly, am I just thinking she might be interested or is there a slight possiblity? Thirdly, what can I do online to give her some indication that I like her (ie online flirting)? And lastly, I don't want to seem like a fool but is there anyway of subtly finding out if she has a boyfriend? Thanks for reading. (P.S Haven't got her number cause I don't know, seems kind of weird and I don't really want to ask for it yet.) Link to post Share on other sites
Bullgator Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 Regarding your questions, here's my take: 1.) It might be hard to ask her out at work. Both of you may be too self-conscious. Then again the boss may not appreciate too much socializing during store hours. But still, if the opportunity presents itself, go for it. 2.) I don't think she would have given you her IM if she wasn't at least willing to be friends with you. Maybe she wants more, but maybe not. Only time will tell. 3.) I think the best advice on what to say online is to "be yourself". If you are going to be happy together, she needs to know the real you, not some made up internet persona. If you like her, think of a way to compliment her. Just keep it light and casual until you know what her reaction is going to be. Have a plan for what you will say if she responds favorably, and another plan for what you will say if she turns you down. A smile and some good-natured humor at that point can relieve the tension of a turn-down without burning any bridges. Remember that "No" might just mean "Not today". 4.) I'm not sure what to tell you about this one. If it were me, I'd see where it leads and wait to see what she reveals. JMHO Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 First of all, welcome to LS!! Everything you've asked on your post we can't really answer. If you want to ask her out hun, just ask her. There is no special way. Just go up to her, strike up a random, friendly conversation, then ask if she wants to go hang out one day. Tisn't hard. There is no way of knowing if shes interested, I can't see her. And I guess you won't either until you ask her out and see what her answer is. I dont know how we can tell you to flirt, just joke around, be yourself. And as far as finding out if she has a bf, just ask her. Its all very simple really. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nezero Posted June 14, 2006 Author Share Posted June 14, 2006 Whoops, my question one was suppose to be. Do you think asking her if she wanted to do something over MSN is not the best way of asking her? Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 Whoops, my question one was suppose to be. Do you think asking her if she wanted to do something over MSN is not the best way of asking her? Why not just go up to her on one of your off days while shes at work and say you just wanted to stop by and see if she wants to go see a movie Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nezero Posted June 15, 2006 Author Share Posted June 15, 2006 Why not just go up to her on one of your off days while shes at work and say you just wanted to stop by and see if she wants to go see a movie Because where I work is not that close to where I live. Also too young to drive yet and yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nezero Posted June 15, 2006 Author Share Posted June 15, 2006 Sorry for double post. Today at work, she was called to work. I thought it was now or never and asked. She said something like, she doesn't know if she's going away for holidays yet and that she would get back to me on MSN. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nezero Posted June 16, 2006 Author Share Posted June 16, 2006 EDIT: Doesn't matter. Found out the answer. Not what I wanted but hey thats life. Thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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