Guest Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 I hate to sound like I am insensitive to everyone who posts here. However, I think you guys who struggle with issues like these should tell the person in question how you feel and get it over with ASAP. I actually speak from experience as I too have fallen for my best friend, and he has no idea. At one point, he was subtly trying to let me know he was interested. What did I do? I avoided having the "talk" with him for fear of losing him as a friend. Albeit his advances were very subtle, I know it is very hard to let a platonic friend know that you want more because there is already a strong platonic bond in place. As the bond changes and grows...you need to put it out there ASAP because it is unhealthy to hold your feelings in. You wind up watching the person you care about the most in your life becoming f*** buddies or FWB with someone meaningless or even getting involved with someone meaningful who has the guts to talk to them about their feelings. After you watch all these things, you have been friends too long and you most likely will not hook up with them. Even if you do...it's hard to start it off because you know that they are screwing around with someone else. Even if the person doesn't feel the same way about you, you will feel so much better that you finally got it off your chest. Don't hold back!!! All you are doing is preventing yourself from being happy and possibly preventing yourself from being with the love of your life. It is too late for me as I am stuck in the friend zone with my guy, and I don't think he will ever know how much I wanted to be with him at this time. Don't be like me. It may not be too late for some of you who read this post..... Link to post Share on other sites
darrren12000 Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 i think one of the biggest problems on here is not that people hide their feelings, but once they reveal them, the friend says the feelings are not shared, but then proceeds to cling to you in some messed up "romantic friendship" scenario, sending mixed signals. how to break that cycle is the hardest part.... Link to post Share on other sites
Ja5e Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 Absolutely spot on darren12000 ! Why do they do that???? Attention? Maybe they arent sure about their feelings towards you? I dont know. But it sucks big style. Link to post Share on other sites
bm2092004 Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 Ok 'guest', I don't know if you're going to be looking at this, or if that was a one-time post and then you leave. But for some of us, it's just not that easy. I'm going to save myself alot of typing and I'm going to ask you (or anyone that can help) to go to my post ("How do I stop loving her and still be friends?"), and tell me what I should do. Thanks in advance, bm2092004 Link to post Share on other sites
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