Break up w/ Baby's mom

[coolguy]

I am new to this site and find it pretty good. Hope someone can shed some light into this issue.

I was talking to this girl from school for 3 months before going out. We had some good times for another 3 months as BF and GF and then uhff she got pregnant. It was almost 1 year ago on August. Well she was very worried about what the family would say and disappointing them etc. At first she considered abortion but once in the clinic she freaked out and said that didnt believe in it and that she'll face the consequences. Later she blamed me for this but I swear it wasnt my idea. I believe that women should have the right to choose but consider abortion unfair, since it is a blessing, to other unfertile couples. However, I always wished to have children once married or at least in a stable relationship. I was excited and, though worried of what was to come, happy. I comfort her and told her that she's got my full support, both financially and emotionally. I did the manly thing and faced her Mother, who didnt like me after that, understandable. I dont have to tell you that I felt unwelcomed in her house. We did go out sometimes and took her to a lot of places she never been before where we enjoyed good times, including baby clothes shopping, baby shower' list, etc. They go to bed really early in her house and added that I live about 1 hr away, plus my job, plus the unwelcoming feeling, plus the tension with her family, plus she is not the most loving person (cold in nature (not excusing myself) my visits were short and scarce 1-2 week. I did call her every day at least twice. She complained to me that she wanted to see me more. I did for a short while, but dedicated more time to work and buying a new house and other stress I was under, not related to her, MY fault. I did propose to her on her birthday to which i later found out that her mother complained that we were rushing into things. She is very influenced by her Mother. To make the story short I did a lot for her with material things and not emotionally, entirely my fault. 2 weeks before the baby was born we had a small talk where she told me about going to mediator for child support in the future and her and the baby staying in her house and the baby not having my name or last name. I freaked out. First, I had already spent at least 5 Grand so far in this unborn baby alone, so money was not a problem nor ever denied child support..but the rest made me unsettled. I thought she wanted me out of the Pic. I was pissed off. we had an argument and she broke up with me. Well the baby is here beautiful and healthy, thank God. I was there at delivery and fully dedicated then and after. Again she pushed me away. After 1 mo, and countless pleads to work things out, I had to bring her to court to protect my rights because her attitude didnt change, but got worse. The child is under my health INS, got name changed, visitation rights, joint legal custody, and also set child support.I dont lick my wounds for too long before taking action. But I tell you, once u see that little person come out u r totally changed person and become vulnerable. Any ways, I wanted to still be friends and do things as a family and enjoy this special time but always get a NO. No friends but friendly to each other and NO to work things out.

My questions are:

She is not really out going or party person. She is totally into our baby as far as I can see. I admire and respect her for that. She is 20 yr.o. Do you think she is already over me and really want me away? Do I have a chance of wining her back? Any strategies?

I have tried everything possible to get her back for the past 3 months, the pathetic way of course, using logic, pleading, etc.

 

Thank you all in advance