I feel lost

[sallyjavan]

for some of you dont know what happened i'll make this short I am married now so this was in the past. i broke up with my ex boyfriend 4 years ago and never got treated the way i should had been treated by my exboyfriend. i ended it because i didnt think there would had been a chance for us so i gave up, also was long distance. during the period i was with him he made me feel so unsecure about myself, he would had treated me like he was talking to his mother, i've felt used in this relationship, betrayed, hurt, depressed for along time time but comming around it. and now i want to have my old self back, i want the life i use to have again, i want to be able to come around my husband and make him happy but i cant do that while i feel like this. i'm lost. really lost. i cant find myself anymore, i dont know who i am anymore. i just dont know what to do anymore. any advice would be great.

thanks

[whichwayisup]

Sounds like you need to go talk to someone...Find a therapist who can help you gain back your confidence. Your husband can only say and do enough, the rest has to come within yourself...Though if you don't have the strength to build yourself back up again, that is where the therapist comes in handy.

 

Remember too, the ex is your past, not your present or future. So what he said to you or how he made you feel doesn't count. Yeah I know it's easier said than done, but I know you can work through it all and come out of this a stronger person.

 

Keep posting!

[sallyjavan]

my husband said he has had enough of it and said that he was going to divorce me. i dont want to loose my husband at all. I love him. Its just i said it so many times that he does not want to beleive me anymore i'm trying to get his support but he keep pushing back and makes me feel insecure about doing the stuff i need to do. i do something then in the halfway i quit doing it. i've asked for little space of my privacy too but he snoops around my stuff or reads them and tells me that up front in my face and makes me look so stupid. he tells me were married we dont need to be keeping secrets from each other. i told him this has nothing to do with the ex bf and that its me that has been emotional these days, i keep crying alot i was hurt in the past before i dont want my husband end up leaving me i'm scared really scared.

[Guest]

It sounds like you have put yourself in a bad situation. You have love for a person that dosent care about you or want what you want. turn your cheek and see what happens. your caring nature has got the better of you. if he cares he will come around if he dosent then you will never hear from him again. you might also be one of those people that are never happy, then if thats the case dont look back and move on, cause he will never make you happy.

 

good luck and i know what your going though on the other side.

[sallyjavan]

dear guest,

 

i'm going to therpy next month maybe that will help me. maybe i just lost confidence in myself alot. the last thing i want is to deal with him. i changed my email address and having a friend of mine dealing with this creep. because now i see him as this person that talk to much bs and dont take his words serious anymore. there is nothing left for me to talk to him about when he's this confused and doesn't know what the hell he's talking about anymore and is always telling me how happy he is in his life and how he's in love and met his other half, i told him that i didnt give a s*** to know anything about his personal life because he's not with me anymore he keeps dragging the situation. i mean how can a person like this be that sick. because he has problems in his life that does not give him the right to treat my like dirt.