Woggle Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 I decided I needed to confront this issue so I asked her if we could have a talk and it did not go well. She still does not get it and I doubt she ever will. We got into a screaming match and I let it fly. I finally said everything I never had the balls to say to her and it felt like a huge load was finally lifted off my shoulders. I ended it with telling her that despite all she has done I no longer hate her. I pity her and I hope one day she can break away from this world of hate and misery she has created for herself. I have no desire to see her doing bad but she I will no longer let her drag me down with her and until she is willing to change I wish my hands clean of her. I left her place feeling like I just cleansed my soul and my entire psyche. Link to post Share on other sites
BeFree Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 Good job woggle. Even if she does not get it, you said your peace. I am glad you feel like a wieght was lifted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted June 15, 2006 Author Share Posted June 15, 2006 Good job woggle. Even if she does not get it, you said your peace. I am glad you feel like a wieght was lifted. I doubt she ever will but I got it off my chest. Honestly I am even starting to see how she became the way she is. She ran into some people who saw an emotionally damaged woman, brainwashed her and turned her into a monster. It doesn't excuse her but perhaps if she got some real counseling instead maybe things might have been different. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 but perhaps if she got some real counseling instead maybe things might have been different. Woggle.. I'll bet it does feel better.. You made a step in the right direction in taking control over your own life.. Now.. I would like you to read your own words and take your own advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 ^5 Woggle, you done good! Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 Good job Woggle!! I really feel like that is something you needed to do before you got married!! Even if she doesn't ever understand, you can chose to not let it affect you, and it looks like thats what you did. Don't you feel so much better?!! Link to post Share on other sites
slinkysu Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 Good for you! When i went into re-hab a while back one of my counsellors had cut off all contact with his family. They were so detrimental to his mental and emotional health that he knew that in order for him to get his life back on track he couldn't have their destructive ways in his life anymore. it wasn't an easy decision but it was the best. Sometimes family can screw you up worse than anyone else and just because they are blood-related doesn't mean they have an automatic right to affect your life in a negative fashion. It's a hard thing to do to be honest with someone who makes you unhappy, and even harder to do this to a parent - so well done. It can't have been easy but it's great to hear that it has left you feeling stronger as a result. Link to post Share on other sites
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