Touche Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 lol no problem... i dont expect many to follow the divorce support forum ok, so i finally pushed the tv out of the box to get the plugs and set it up on the floor... OMG i do NOT need my glasses to watch tv lol yipeeeee k i really need to get some work done, but but there's a big tv on my living room floor... how can i work now? You can't. Just forget work for today! Link to post Share on other sites
CryingCanuck Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I was told I'm good for moving stuff around the house, did it for years...... tell you what sweetie, put on your tightest sweatshirt, go up/down to the laundry room with, obviously, laundry, wait until some guy comes in, then start it to load, no sense starting it until then or you will have to rewash your clean clothes.... When a guy comes in, start loading, then hold your back like this, you know both hands pressing on the small, make a little pain sound..... and stretching your chest agaist the sweatshirt...... saying something to the effect that I have this new TV set I hurt my back trying to set it up and still can't because it's way too heavy ....... looking into his eyes......... Watch him jump to help..... Us guys are such sluts for a tight sweatshirts..... Bra's optional CC.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted November 13, 2006 Author Share Posted November 13, 2006 :lmao: cc, i think i need boobs for that to work Link to post Share on other sites
CryingCanuck Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 well then I'm out of Ideas, Call me then, I'm not a boob man anyway.... I'll be right over, just have a pot of tea on, I can't stay long though I have to drive back to Windsor right so that I can see the chiropractor for my back..... Link to post Share on other sites
CryingCanuck Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Did you get the TV set up? Scheeech been waiting all day to find out... Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted November 15, 2006 Author Share Posted November 15, 2006 yep.. it's up and running... just on the floor lol i need to get some proper wires for the tv tho... green red blue instead of white/red/yellow? *shrug* I fell asleep in front of the tv last night DOH Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 yep.. it's up and running... just on the floor lol i need to get some proper wires for the tv tho... green red blue instead of white/red/yellow? *shrug* I fell asleep in front of the tv last night DOH DG - The white/red/yellow ones are colored for 2 channel (stereo) audio (which are red and white, remember, R=R, Red is right, when hooking up both ends...) plus one channel of composite video (yellow) which is like what comes out of older-style video cameras or VHS videocasette players. The green/red/blue set is color coded for higher-end video - I can't remember the name of the format - I think it's Y-Cr-Cb or something like that, a luminance and two chrominance channels, I think. Fundamentally, it doesn't really matter, though, because the cables are just cables, so as you can see, using your red/white/yellow set to hook up the video works pretty much just fine. If you go buy a fancy 3-cable set for video, you will probably get a nicer set of cables, with thicker conductors and better shielding (which is actually germane to the higher bandwidth video signals) however, if your cables are only a meter long or so, I bet if you do a "before and after" test, you won't see that much difference between using those "cheap" audio cables for your video hookup and the "nicer" video cables. A videophile may well argue the fine points of bandwidth and high-frequency rolloff with me, and in fact, I know the engineering, and I admit that "good enough" cables will give better fidelity over "real cheap" ones, but my point is, the video fidelity you are losing is probably barely noticeable, if at all, so don't drop everything to rush right out to the all-night stereo store, and don't spend a huge amount on gold-plated, oxygen-free monster video cables... Then again, I've always listened to music on definitely-not-top-end speakers, too, so maybe my audio/video standards are just naturally low... I fell asleep in front of the TV last night, too (although not as nice of a unit as yours, to be sure...) A guy I know, not at all closely, was on one of the late night talk shows, and I wanted to bask in that tiny, tiny brush with fame. Woke up on the couch at 6 am - still in my clothes - feeling a little pathetic (that's no comment on you though, DG .) Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted November 15, 2006 Author Share Posted November 15, 2006 (that's no comment on you though, DG .) :lmao: Thanks Trimmer! One question? If the wires are the same, does it matter which r/w/y goes to which r/b/g? Right now I have r going to r, w-b, and y-g? And have a little fuzz with my dvd player on an lcd. My bro said I needed r/g/b cables and that should stop it. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 no, the colors don't matter, as long as each signal output on the one unit goes to the same named signal input on the other unit, in other words the r-r connection can be made by any colored cable, the g-g connection by any other color, and the b-b connection by the last one available. It could indeed be that you've got a bad cable. If you're getting fuzz, then that's what I'd try replacing first, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted November 17, 2006 Author Share Posted November 17, 2006 OMG, I thought this day would never come! It's finally been granted on the 14th! After exactly 21 long months!!!! And should be official next month. *cross fingers* I'm sad and I'm relieved. In some respects, I cant believe it's almost 2 years since d-bomb. 2 years is such a long time to be mourning. And I am, although not nearly as much as in the beginning, still mourning. But I'm also relieved that it's finally over. No more paper work. No more running all over trying to get things done. No more constant reminders that I'm not divorced yet. No more calls from my lawyer!! No poking and probing from the past when I'm having a good day. And not that it makes much of a difference, just purely how circumstances have played out, but it's kinda cool that I have not dated anyone yet, nothing serious atleast, and still have "honoured" my vows. Asshat thought I'd sleep with the first man that entered into my life. Even told me not to sleep with anyone in our bed our home the night he left. He obviously didnt know me very well to think that of me. I've always been a lot more cautious and careful with my heart and soul. I dont give it away to just anyone. I guess he never knew that about me. But I do. I've hated but also treassured that about me. It's what defines me to me. From day one, I've been seeing signs. I dont understand them, dont know what they mean, but it feels important. And the 14th is such a significant number for me. Everything started on the 14th, and it's ended on the 14th. I've moved on the 14th and the decision was granted on the 14th. And there are other signs too. I wish I knew what it all meant. Maybe it's just one more sign to wrap it all up into the past. A nice little ending to close my married chapter. Finally, some peace. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted November 17, 2006 Share Posted November 17, 2006 OMG, I thought this day would never come! It's finally been granted on the 14th! After exactly 21 long months!!!! And should be official next month. *cross fingers* I'm sad and I'm relieved. In some respects, I cant believe it's almost 2 years since d-bomb. 2 years is such a long time to be mourning. And I am, although not nearly as much as in the beginning, still mourning. But I'm also relieved that it's finally over. No more paper work. No more running all over trying to get things done. No more constant reminders that I'm not divorced yet. No more calls from my lawyer!! No poking and probing from the past when I'm having a good day. And not that it makes much of a difference, just purely how circumstances have played out, but it's kinda cool that I have not dated anyone yet, nothing serious atleast, and still have "honoured" my vows. Asshat thought I'd sleep with the first man that entered into my life. Even told me not to sleep with anyone in our bed our home the night he left. He obviously didnt know me very well to think that of me. I've always been a lot more cautious and careful with my heart and soul. I dont give it away to just anyone. I guess he never knew that about me. But I do. I've hated but also treassured that about me. It's what defines me to me. From day one, I've been seeing signs. I dont understand them, dont know what they mean, but it feels important. And the 14th is such a significant number for me. Everything started on the 14th, and it's ended on the 14th. I've moved on the 14th and the decision was granted on the 14th. And there are other signs too. I wish I knew what it all meant. Maybe it's just one more sign to wrap it all up into the past. A nice little ending to close my married chapter. Finally, some peace. Sounds like a good reason to go out and party~hardy! Congrats! :bunny: :bunny: "You've come a long way Baby!" Link to post Share on other sites
CryingCanuck Posted November 17, 2006 Share Posted November 17, 2006 Simply because it's not something you wanted not something you asked for and not something you deserved. It's something you had no choice in something you HAD to do, and you saw it through. Maybe someday I'll find that strenght but I hope that this really puts closure to that part of your life if that's what you want and need. You're really an amazing lady and you've shared and helped me so much I'm just glad I got to know you in cyberland..... CC Link to post Share on other sites
ilmw Posted November 17, 2006 Share Posted November 17, 2006 Its hard to say congrats regarding a divorce.. But I'm glad now you can have more closure... and find it easier to move along in your life... At least now you can have somemore peace of mind... Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted November 18, 2006 Share Posted November 18, 2006 From the confusion, clarity. From the uncertainty, confidence. From the mourning, joy. In this ending, a beginning. Congratulations, Good Luck, Peace. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted November 18, 2006 Author Share Posted November 18, 2006 Thanks guys! The paper work is just that, paper work. It does not define my love nor my marriage. All it means to me now is no more reminders of the past. I will take congratulations, not over my divorce, but definitely on reaching this stage in my life and on my new life. As you all know from your own experiences, it's hard work and a lot of effort to pick yourself off the ground and keep moving. It's one of those life experiences that shakes you up, makes you doubt everything you've ever believed and tests you to see what you're made of. And it can either destroy us or make us stronger, and it's all our choice. Trimmer, wow, there's so much truth to that. I think I'm printing that one out. Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted November 18, 2006 Share Posted November 18, 2006 WAY TO GO! Just looking at things in a positive way I feel is a step forward and you are making a lot of those little steps. I for one I'm very proud of you.... (THUMBS UP) Link to post Share on other sites
Lor Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Looking good PW and ilmw!! Where's Lor? She's missing all the eye candy! Ohhhhh!!! That was sooooo not fair!! :mad: I've been busy here at work, my laptop at home is broke, I can't see my BF cuz my daughter has ringworm and his friend is afraid he'll die if he gets it and the guys all came out of the closet!! Although Chad still has his up.... :bunny: Is it politically incorrect to whistle?? Link to post Share on other sites
Lor Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 D, I am going to say congrats, whether its what is needed or not. With a date set, you can now move forward from the stalemate that you've been stuck in. Not to say that you haven't made progress or been able to move forward at all.....That door is gonna close now ~ and its time that it did. It hasn't been up to you to shut it, and you couldn't open it again because of the X, but now it will be shut, lock it, and throw away the key. Don't look back at it. Never forget what brought you to where you are today, but don't dwell on it either. You have gotten confidence again but you aren't completely there yet ~ can see that from your posts saying that the prospects are dim. Have you looked in the mirror lately? Do you honestly like the physical you that you see? I know you are comfortable with yourself and where you are, where you live, your friends, etc, etc, but you need to look at yourself and say "Damn, I look good!" When you're out taking your pictures, don't stare straight ahead, look around, look at the men driving by..bet you'll be surprised by how many are kinking their neck to get a better look. They are thinking "wow" and that's what you need to think of yourself. Its not selfish, its not conceited, its confident and having control. I used to be that way, could never see what guys would see in me....now I know that I am attractive and do get attention. If the BF and I wouldn't work out, I could send out an email to my guy friends I've made and within a day have a date. (not to say I'd go, just to say I know it would happen) and the thought that I know I can be happy without a man in my life is such a big thing to do with confidence also. Congrats on the TV ~ I felt the same way when I got my 32" flatscreen, although I was able to pick it up. Now if I could get the kids to get their video games off of it so I could watch it every now and then life would be even better. Good thing I'd read from where I left off last time I was on here ~ kept reading about 10" bigger and such....Oh, and you don't need the double D's to get a guy to help you lift it....I'm only a 34A but have a nice azz to make up for it. :lmao: (or so I'm told) Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted November 21, 2006 Author Share Posted November 21, 2006 Thanks for your post Lor D, I am going to say congrats, whether its what is needed or not. With a date set, you can now move forward from the stalemate that you've been stuck in. Not to say that you haven't made progress or been able to move forward at all.....That door is gonna close now ~ and its time that it did. It hasn't been up to you to shut it, and you couldn't open it again because of the X, but now it will be shut, lock it, and throw away the key. Don't look back at it. Yah, I know I've been in this stalemate for a while. I think I've been trying to convince myself and everyone else that I'm over it, and i know i'm not. I definitely made a lot of progress, but I'm starting to come to peace with the fact that "i'm not over it and it's ok". Just keep focusing on other things and live my life and not beat myself up or feel guilty whenever I do think about the past. Never forget what brought you to where you are today, but don't dwell on it either. You have gotten confidence again but you aren't completely there yet ~ can see that from your posts saying that the prospects are dim. Have you looked in the mirror lately? Do you honestly like the physical you that you see? I know you are comfortable with yourself and where you are, where you live, your friends, etc, etc, but you need to look at yourself and say "Damn, I look good!" When you're out taking your pictures, don't stare straight ahead, look around, look at the men driving by..bet you'll be surprised by how many are kinking their neck to get a better look. They are thinking "wow" and that's what you need to think of yourself. You are right Lor. Sometimes I feel on top of the world, sometimes not. Sometimes I look in the mirror and really like what I see, other times, I dont. But it goes deeper than just my physical looks. IRL, guys simply do not approach me, and it takes a toll on my self confidence. And the rare few who do, I dont feel any chemistry with and then feel guilty about that because I was having a pity party about noone approaching me. And it's not like i'm holding out for brad pitt, I'm just looking for that spark. So since I hear people say i'm attractive, and yet so few do approach, I either think there's something physically wrong, or worse it's my personality. Neither of which I can really fix. People talk about dating as if they have control over the situation, and yet here I am, 2 years later, and havent been able to even start a relationship. It gets me down sometimes, so I try not to focus on it too much. Oh, and you don't need the double D's to get a guy to help you lift it....I'm only a 34A but have a nice azz to make up for it. :lmao: (or so I'm told) woo we're boobie twins lol I'm not too worried over my tiny minis. For every guy who's a boob man, there's another who likes me the way I am. And I use my tiny mini's as a test. I know the guy's really into me and not just my breasts, which is always a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Lor Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Hey, here's a scenario for ya.... When I was in HS, I was shy, extremely self-conscious (omg, putting it mildly!), didn't like the way I looked, thought no one liked me. I'd never look at anyone...found out after I graduated that there were a bunch of guys who had wanted to ask me out but were afraid I'd bite their heads off. What I felt was shyness and geeky, they took as stuck-up and too good for them, since I was a brainiac. Pull yourself out of the shyness, force yourself, and it will come easier with time. I tell people now I was shy and they about drop their jaws to the ground. But it was because I wanted to change, because I made myself change! Can I still be shy? Oh, heck, yeah. So, before you go thinking the guys aren't interested, step outside yourself, look at your body language, your attitude. What kind of person do other people see? Keep your head up on the street, look people in the eye, even if just for a second, and smile at the cute guy coming towards you. You never know ~ maybe he's thinking he's geeky and unattractive and you just made their day. Wouldn't it make yours? I gave up on worrying about my "lack" of attributes. Other than push-up bras, falsies, or implants, not much I can do about it. Although I have found that, since I've done so much physical work ~ they've gotten bigger!! :bunny: My sil had the implants done and she's very happy with them, says she can still feel, no pain, no discomfort, the whole works. I keep thinking about it ~ the flex-spending healthcare account doesn't exactly cover it ~ and would only go up maybe a size or two if I did. The BF wants 36 DD ~ yeah right! Who's gonna have to carry the things around day to day? Not that he wouldn't offer to "lend a hand". Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted November 22, 2006 Author Share Posted November 22, 2006 Hey, here's a scenario for ya.... When I was in HS, I was shy, extremely self-conscious (omg, putting it mildly!), didn't like the way I looked, thought no one liked me. I'd never look at anyone...found out after I graduated that there were a bunch of guys who had wanted to ask me out but were afraid I'd bite their heads off. What I felt was shyness and geeky, they took as stuck-up and too good for them, since I was a brainiac. Pull yourself out of the shyness, force yourself, and it will come easier with time. I tell people now I was shy and they about drop their jaws to the ground. But it was because I wanted to change, because I made myself change! Can I still be shy? Oh, heck, yeah. So, before you go thinking the guys aren't interested, step outside yourself, look at your body language, your attitude. What kind of person do other people see? Keep your head up on the street, look people in the eye, even if just for a second, and smile at the cute guy coming towards you. You never know ~ maybe he's thinking he's geeky and unattractive and you just made their day. Wouldn't it make yours? See, this is where I have a problem. I do smile to strangers. I do try and catch guys eye contact. Nothing happens. I'm not really sure of how others perceive me. I have an idea on how other's might perceive me, but if that's close to the truth or not, I have no clue. My ex told me I wasnt approachable which threw me for a loop. But he also shifted a lot of blame onto my shoulders for his shortcomings, so I dont know if there was any truth to his statement. I'd love to ask my friends but I dont know exactly how to ask them without sounding needy. How does one overcome their shyness? I am very polite and I try to interact with strangers. But other than that, I cannot exactly change my whole personality and become a talkative person. I donno... it's hard. Although I have found that, since I've done so much physical work ~ they've gotten bigger!! :bunny: lol right after the dbomb, i lost about 20lbs on the divorce diet and I never knew it was possible but I shrunk there too! lol I was looking pretty anorexic, but thankfully, I've gained back the weight about a year later. It took me a while to get use to the padding again tho. Link to post Share on other sites
ilmw Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 It took me a while to get use to the padding again tho. You do know this is public forum right.... :lmao: Question for you dgiirl... are like you are here in real life... If so... you should be walking tall walking proud... because you are one hell of a lady... You believe something... like pride... it shines from within... Nothing people say or do... can bring you down... If this is an issue... find your pride... believe in it.... and it will eventually stick.. Because when you have your pride... proud of yourself... It make you feel unshakable... (not conciet) Pride. Be really proud of yourself... you should be.. Pull back those shoulders... hold up that chin... look people strait in the eye... and show them you are a tigeress... (not a kitty cat) Meeeoww.... Tigeress (Rooooooar) Got it.... good;) ilmw Link to post Share on other sites
CryingCanuck Posted November 24, 2006 Share Posted November 24, 2006 With everything ILMW said You're a pretty tough cookie when the chips are down lady ...... Hope I get your strengh someday..... I'm still at the wishful thinking stage.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted November 24, 2006 Author Share Posted November 24, 2006 You do know this is public forum right.... lies... you're all just figments of my imagination Question for you dgiirl... are like you are here in real life... If so... you should be walking tall walking proud... because you are one hell of a lady... Thanks ilmw! You really gave me food for thought there. I think I'm pretty close to how I am online. I'm more relaxed online than when I first meet people IRL, but you guys have also seen some more intimate sides of me. You guys see a lot of my insecurities, a lot of my thought processes. But I am like this with the people who know me. I know I'm proud, and yet insecure. It's like two sides of my personalities fighting with each other. CC, dont discredit yourself! You've been through quite a lot yourself and you're still kicking. You've been very compassionate and patient towards your wife, and you should be very proud of that! Dont beat yourself up for taking a small step back into the bargainning stage. Heck, I still fall into the trap once in a while. It doesnt matter how long it takes to get to the end, you are still making progress, that's all that matters. Thanks guys You made my night! Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted November 24, 2006 Share Posted November 24, 2006 LOL! This has become a most interesting thread? The employees at the local Post Office and Super WalMart still talk about the day I ripped their managers a new one in front of God and eveybody! "AND LET MET TELL YOU ANOTHER %$^%&&* THING!!!!!!! They PMO so bad! It's not nice to PO God, Mother Nature, nor a retired Marine Gunny, with two tours on the Drill Field! To this day! I can promise you that when you ask back from (the local) WalMart cashier, she won't close the drawer without giving you you proper change back over your purchase. To this day, I can promise you, that in my local area, you're landlady won't receipt a registered letter from the IRS! Thanks for re-minding me! I've got me some azz chewing to do tomorrow morning with the local Post~Master! Breakfast! Better than Hardiee's, BurgerKing, nor McDonald"s! Link to post Share on other sites
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