Whipped Posted November 10, 2001 Share Posted November 10, 2001 I went to see my ex after about a month without talking or seeing each other. I was quite nervous but I was also happy to see her after such a long time away. She knows I still miss and love her tremendously but somehow she doesn't want to express what she is feeling. Anyway, we talked for a bit to see how each other were doing as so forth. During our conversation her cats came out to see me. I was so happy to see them because I helped my ex raise them when they were a few months old. As I was petting one of them and I noticed that my ex was quiet and staring at me. When I looked over, she had this look on her face like she was remembering something. Then a smirk developed with a teary eye. I asked her what was wrong and she said nothing. We continued to talk for a while longer until she had to go to class. I not sure how the topic of getting back together surfaced but she told me something that I not quite sure what she meant. What she said was, " I'm not promising you that we would get back together, but that doesn't mean we wouldn't get back together." Now is that a tongue twister or what!!! Would someone help me decipher this one because I totally lost. The more the responses the BETTER!!!! Thank-you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted November 10, 2001 Share Posted November 10, 2001 What she basically told you was that she carries all the power in this deal and she knows it's up to her to determine if the two of you get back together or not. She told you that if she should decide she wants you back, then that's the way it will be...and if she decides she doesn't want you back, then that's the way it will be. Poop on her. This is a two way deal here. You gotta be nuts putting all this in her hands. If a person has got to think about whether or not they want to be with you, the deal is treading on thin ice. You caught her at a time when memories of the past came to her. There were good reasons why she terminated the relationship and there may be good reasons why she wants to keep you in reserve...perhaps in case other pursuits don't work out. That's a bunch of crap. If you want to know if she's really sincere, that is, if she wants you back because she loves you and cares about you and wants to be with you then back off, make yourself scarse, and don't contact her anymore. Just stay out of her life. It really pisses me off when females make these kinds of statements because the only purpose they serve is to keep a guy on a string while they search around for other options and see what else is out there. You don't need to buy into that crap, especially in your vulnerable state. It's really too bad she knows how much you care because it's all the easier to keep you around that way. Be a man and don't let her do that. Stop calling her and stay away from her. That's the only thing you can do to flush her out if she's really got feelings for you. Otherwise, move on down the road. P.S. Sorry this is not what you wanted to hear. I've been where you are lots of times, got the video and the T-shirt. Link to post Share on other sites
MercyRose Posted November 11, 2001 Share Posted November 11, 2001 why did you break up? you have to give reasons for that before writing her off. She may have a valid reason for having reserves about wanting to get back with you. Link to post Share on other sites
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