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The facts are that when my kids were confronted (with a drug abuse counselor in the room) my daughter said "so that one time many years ago that I caught you smoking something it was pot too, right? I always wondered and thought so." So...for people who don't think that kids are aware of what's going on (and I was one of them) they do. Don't let it fool you.

 

As far as not being fair that I too used to smoke. I never smoked while I was pregnant...I was never a daily smoker...yes I did at parties...but then stopped doing that 10 years ago.

 

Nevertheless, I've recognized my codependency ways, accepted this in myself, and am now changing the way I interact with certain people.

I was "freakin" because even though I detached myself from his pot, when my daughter found his bag and he said nothing about it...my world crashed with his. And if you have kids, you should know that you'd do anything to protect them. I was in denial and I didn't realize how bad it was until that point in time. There are certain points in a lifetime where there are defining moments...that was one of my defining moments.

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ok sorry everything seemed sudden to me is all

well g'luck at least you know yourself thats always good, yeah i understand defying moments. i wish your family the best!

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wake up! i live with and am married to a pot smoker for 10 years. he by nature is a very hyper person and claims pot mellows him out. he also drinks a couple of beers a day. the friends he makes always have pot in common.here's the problem,pot is very expensive,he smokes alot of it except when he's at work.when he can't afford to by a bag,he goes thru mood swings so bad i want to leave our marriage even though i love him.

 

At that time i tell myself it's not worth it! talk about a flip flop personality. he admits when he is out he hates life. he say's he wants to quit but it's hard. after we go thru mood swings and it's hard on our relationship he says i'm going to quit this time. but all he does is talk about it. don't know one tell me pot is not additive i have lived it to long!pot users are the first one's to say it's not and blame the problems on something else.the truth!

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I couldn't agree with you more on your statements! I too am in your position with your XH although mine isn't an X yet. We go round and round about how he thinks it is going to all change when it gets legalized and I say, we have a child, I see things in black and white and I don't want this habit or useage of yours in MY life.

 

Be who you need to be but what is more important - your wife and child or POT? You make the call - of I have to.

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