GuestHan Posted June 16, 2006 Share Posted June 16, 2006 ok here is my situation... Me and my girlfriend recently broke up because i was a little overprotective in the relationship. Eventually it lead into a lot of verbal fights and some minor physical violence that she would slap me. She feels like the relationship is going down hill regardless that how compatible we are. We like the same stuff. Watch the same movie. Plays videogames together (including fighting games), and she likes cars and like driving stick cars just like i do. She felt like wants to experience more. She decided that she wants to breakup with me.. After breaking up with me we still kept contact. She sounds depressed whenever we talk because she knows how good of a person i am and sometimes she does not want to think about it. She also always gets depressed because we made plans before summer and she's not able to go with me (although there are other guys asking her out.. she has been hanging out.. she sorta like the other people but she always think about the good times we have) she felt like she has to make this decision because of the trend of our relationship was going bad.. what do you think i should do to recover this relationship? to make her think that the trend wont continue. Obviously trying to reason with her right now it's not going to work..... any suggestions? should i go NC forawhile and let her live her life without me for a bit and to talk to her after summer ends or whatever? Link to post Share on other sites
Kengne Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 ok what do you think i should do to recover this relationship? to make her think that the trend wont continue. Obviously trying to reason with her right now it's not going to work..... any suggestions? should i go NC forawhile and let her live her life without me for a bit and to talk to her after summer ends or whatever? Yes. Please leave her alone for a while - so that 1) YOU can heal & properly grieve the rel'ship and 2) SHE can miss you. She can only truly miss you if you are NOT in your life i.e. NOT in contact with her. That is the only way she will ever realize what a good thing she had in you, and if her feelings for you are as strong as yours for her - she will come back. But by you always being there as her friend - she can have her cake (i.e. be single) and eat it to (i.e. still have you in her life, for mental & emotional support w/o the strings of a rel'ship that YOU want!). Don't let her be a cakewoman. Buck up... leave her alone, focus on YOU and healing and let her be for now. K. Link to post Share on other sites
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