Guest Posted June 16, 2006 Share Posted June 16, 2006 I feel so stupid today for only realising what I should have realised 8 months ago. My friend introduced me to his flatmate at my bday party we got on so well flirted all evening and within a few weeks we were going out - my friend help to set us up even. Then a few months into our relationship he would say strange things to my bf like oh I wish she was my gf talking about me but promised that he would never do anything. Then he would always try to make moves on me even at work - I told him to leave me alone but he wouldnt stop and I didnt know how to tell him to stop it without offending him - I didnt want to tell my bf as I thought it would just make him angry but it upset me and I would avoid leaving my office to go to the toilet even in case he was there waiting. Then he left me alone for a bit and one night we were out with our friends and he just suddenly kissed me - I totally freaked out and left straight away as I didnt know how else to handle the situation as he was so drunk - I told my bf and he went mad and stopped talking to my friend. However he was in my group of friends so I continued to hang around with him and then when were left alone together he would just start having a go at me and saying nasty things about my boyfriend and make me feel awful for going out with him he would make me feel like i had done something wrong - and i just couldnt accept how much he'd changed i just kidded myself that he didnt mean he was still my friend. Then today me and my bf had an argument about it and really fell out and i told him and he was still trying to split us up I cant believe I have been so stupid not to see how badly he was treating me and not really being a friend to me at all. The only problem being that he looks like a little angel to everyone else no-ones sees him behave in this way or understands how much he upsets me they all defend him - I want to sort this out as it is upsetting both me and my bf but I dont know how to do it with out making myself look like the bad person. Any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted June 16, 2006 Share Posted June 16, 2006 Forget about what other people think. If he's forcing himself on you (which can be debated because your not refusing his advances) he is not your friend anyways, so distance yourself from him. Your loyalty is to your BF. Think about his feelings. You have to make sure that others respect your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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