u_would_b_lonley_too Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 I havent been on here in Forever...but the last time I was on here I was talking about my husband and I not getting along to well in the bedroom. Now things are worse... We just dont seem to go together anymore. I mean I love him with all my heart...thats why it is soo hard to talk to him I got married too soon...im almost 20. I got married at 18! What makes it so hard is I love him and wanna be with him but I wanna go out and have fun too. When me and him got together I just dropped all my friends and now I want that back. Does anyone know how im feeling? If so can you about this, I know im gonna hurt him. I just feel like I need time away, likeplease help me out. Also theres these men at work quite abit older than me wanting me to go out some time and I actually liked that theyve talked to me like this. I love getting there attention. My Husband does NOT make me feel desirable and these men do. And ive even actually thought of going and hanging out with them sometime and that is really not like me. Someone please help! Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 It sounds like you need to be open and up-front with your hubby on your unhappiness. Maybe the two of you could benefit from marriage counseling. Do you have children? Link to post Share on other sites
Author u_would_b_lonley_too Posted June 17, 2006 Author Share Posted June 17, 2006 It sounds like you need to be open and up-front with your hubby on your unhappiness. Maybe the two of you could benefit from marriage counseling. Do you have children? I know I NEED to talk to him. Its just hard too. And Ive thought about going to counsling but anytime I mentioned it in the past about our sex life,etc. he has said no. No we dont have children. What should I say to him to where it doesnt come out the wrong way... and what should I do about these men at work? Im so ashamed of myself for being attracted to them. I wish that we hadnt got married so soon and I could have known then what I know now so that we would have waited. Haha wishful thinkin huh. Anyways im afraid that if I say too much and we end up not together anymore that im gonna regret it for the rest of my life when he doesnt want me back or Im gonna regret not talking to him for the rest of my life. This is soooo complicated. Thanks for your reply. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 Is your marriage worth saving? Why doesn't he spend time with you anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 I havent been on here in Forever...but the last time I was on here I was talking about my husband and I not getting along to well in the bedroom. Now things are worse... We just dont seem to go together anymore. I mean I love him with all my heart...thats why it is soo hard to talk to him I got married too soon...im almost 20. I got married at 18! What makes it so hard is I love him and wanna be with him but I wanna go out and have fun too. When me and him got together I just dropped all my friends and now I want that back. Does anyone know how im feeling? If so can you about this, I know im gonna hurt him. I just feel like I need time away, likeplease help me out. Also theres these men at work quite abit older than me wanting me to go out some time and I actually liked that theyve talked to me like this. I love getting there attention. My Husband does NOT make me feel desirable and these men do. And ive even actually thought of going and hanging out with them sometime and that is really not like me. Someone please help! Thanks I have had the same problem with my H. I think that unfortunately you will have to have a long heart to heart with him. If he doesn't get it, you need to tell him that other men are paying you attention and that he needs to step up his game. That you have no intention of cheating on him but the M is vulnerable because you are flattered by attention elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
ashnicole Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 This is all stuff that you should have thought about before you got married. This is the reason that the divorce rate is so high. People get married without thinking, and then when it gets rocky, or when they want what THEY want, they leave. Leave him. Go out and party. It's what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
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