kellyp1 Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 I have been sort of loosely seeing a guy from my work but he lives almost 2500 miles away. We have only being seeing each other for about a month. Things started to feel strong really quickly, despite a significant age difference, we have a lot in common and a lot of fun together. In the past 30 days, we have had the opportunity to spend about 8 of the days together (5 days at the beginning and 3 days about a week ago). We knew each other beforehand (had met in person about a month before the 30 days) and had to communicate for work via phone and email. Now, I no longer work there. Anyway, the other day he freaks out on me. Now he had mentioned that he wished he could live out here, even looked at personally buying a plane ticket to come see me because he missed me already. So, the freak out was that he did not want an LDR (had been hurt really bad by the girl cheating on him) and that he did not know if he even wanted to be in a relationship again ever. That he felt I wanted a relationship and he could not promise that. I told him I never said anything or asked for anything about wanting more from him and that I was just trying to get to know him more. Well, after the talk, we determined that we would either slowly slip into a relationship or slowly slip into friends but that there was no rush to label things. Meanwhile, I still talk to him everyday (He initiates) and try to not let the bad taste in my mouth come out. I do really like him and have never been good at this part. What do I do to give him enough space to give this a chance? Just because we would be long distance dating does not mean we have to be exclusive or anything. I know I would be a great catch and that he and I would be great together. I also know he freaked himself out because he back-pedaled a little even as he was talking. A guy friend of mine said that he was probably getting feelings too early and that scared him as we lived so far apart and would need to live that far apart for the next 1 to 2 years at minimum. The complication is that he is doing contract work for me now and I have to communicate for works reasons. But I want to make him miss me. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
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