musicgu7 Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 Hey all, This is my first post here, so kindly excuse me if its in the wrong section. Looking at the subject of this thread please dont get the wrong idea that I dislike women, quite the opposite:rolleyes: Heres my problem, I'm 26years old and whenever i see a woman I want to approach....I freeze and would rather face a pitbull while being naked from the waist down:(... A little bit about me, I'm a computer programmer and quite nerdy (IMHO), I was told by quite a few that I am very good looking and I had girls approach me before...had a steady girl so didnt pay much attention to others (she kept me too tired to even think of another girl...if you get my drift:p) but now since we broke up I have put on a lot of weight (i know, gotto lose it) and have lost a lot of confidence. I'm 6ft, green eyes,tanned, 75kgs, spiked black hair . Got a job (pretty good pay too), good sense of humour (am told), not stingy. Now when i see a woman I like, sometimes they too give me the once or twice over...but I just cant get the guts to approach them, please HELP. The funny part is I trained for over a year in Taekwondo so I am not really a coward but gods better creations just knock me over. I dont really think I'm a bad guy either, If I take a girl out on an expensive date (lobsters?) I still dont expect "anything" afterwords (one does hope though),I pickup the check, I dont try to take a peek at what bra color a girl is wearing or if she has a gstring and so on. And i do prefer blondes... Once on a date, no problem, I have the gift of the gab...I can talk your ears off and I wont be talking about myself, I ask all the questions so its an active conversation and not one sided...but to get to this stage, i have to pass the first stage... Gimme advise, gimme links, gimme abuses, gimme anything but please HEEEELP. Thanks! -Music (I play the guitar thats why the nick) Link to post Share on other sites
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 oh my god i just nearly died!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! for a second there i thought you were my ex! lmao...but he doesnt live in sweden phew! erm, confidence just doesn't come over night....you need to build it up gradually...start with small things...even if it isn't necessarily approaching women in clubs you like....maybe in the supermarket que....start making conversation with the nearest woman no matter how old she is...even if you dont fancy her! You dont necessarily have to chat her up...it just helps you get more confident with conversation with random women you dont know. hope that helps hun xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author musicgu7 Posted June 17, 2006 Author Share Posted June 17, 2006 oh my god i just nearly died!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! for a second there i thought you were my ex! lmao...but he doesnt live in sweden phew! Your ex? not a chance babe, never been hitched and am scared to death of that "M" word:rolleyes: Thanks for the advise, will try to follow it. Cripes, just realized, if I sound so much like your ex.....what was wrong that it didnt work out for you two? will try not to make the same mistake. Thanks! M Link to post Share on other sites
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 haha marriage??????????????????????????? im 19!!!!!!!!! marriage at my age is just scary!!!!!! Nah, for all i know you don't have his bad traits! lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author musicgu7 Posted June 17, 2006 Author Share Posted June 17, 2006 haha marriage??????????????????????????? im 19!!!!!!!!! marriage at my age is just scary!!!!!! Nah, for all i know you don't have his bad traits! lol Oops, sorry, guess I was too long in the sun today...for some reason I took "ex" to mean "ex hubby"...dont worry, dont bother, will kick my own backside for you:D Cheers! Link to post Share on other sites
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 haha, no worries....the weather makes me act weird too Link to post Share on other sites
Author musicgu7 Posted June 17, 2006 Author Share Posted June 17, 2006 Weirdo.... HEHEHE J/K.... Manchester eh? Good footballclub; MU. Too bad Sweden is gonna kick your butt in the next match... sure hope its not the other way around though Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 Pretend women are people. Not terrifying creatures from the planet Zog. Not intimidating beings from dreamland. Just other humans with feelings like yours. Be nice. Be friendly. Do not be terrified because that tells them you think they are something other than actual regular human beings. Link to post Share on other sites
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