What does he wants?

[Thanh]

A man in his late 30's

 

he's got stable job

 

he claims no marriage/kids

 

he said " I love u" to me

 

what does he want? a part time gf? sex? is he a play boy??? all these doubts block my mind. I'm so confused

[Tony T]

1. what does he want?

 

He may want sex. He may want a piece of pie. He may want the morning newspaper. Ask him, not us!

 

2. a part time gf?

 

What is a part time girlfriend? Is he married? You either have a girlfriend or you don't. There's no part time stuff here. A lot of people who have girlfriends have never told them "I love you" so that isn't a requirement.

 

3. sex?

 

You can have sex all day long with millions of people without saying "I love you." Sometimes you just ask "how much do you charge?"

 

4. is he a play boy???

 

You have presented insufficient evidence to indicate he's a playboy. Even if he reads the magazine, that is no indication he may be a playboy.

 

5. all these doubts block my mind. I'm so confused

 

Why be confused? Ask him and you'll get your answer. And what difference does it make anyway? The real question is how do you feel about him?

 

Frankly, it sounds like just a friendly "I love you". Some people just sort of throw it out there as an endearment.

 

Learn to put more information into your posts. How long have you been seeing this guy or are you dating him at all? Is this guy related to you or is he your father? I mean...come on...give us some details so we can help you.

[Miss Mojo]

hi thanh,

 

you obviously don't know what this man wants, which is why you're confused. the only way you are going to know what this man wants is to ask him.

 

there is really no point in wondering what he wants. wondering isn't going to yield any answers, but asking him will.

 

communication is vital in all kinds of relationships. whenever i've met a guy i really like, i establish what kind of relationship he wants before i take things any further. if he wants the same thing as me, that's great. if he doesn't, then i don't pursue things.

 

so....don't be afraid to ask him if he wants a serious or a casual relationship. we've all had to do it before and it's not embarrassing or difficult. whatever answer he gives you, you will be relieved.

 

good luck!