livi_04 Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 Hi, this experience has been haunting me for a while now, and i'd just like to hear some other peoples opinions on this On new years day of 2006, i went to a huge rave party during the day held in a park with my boyfriend. This guy is always doing cocaine or otherwise weed, although i did love the guy. I had never done a pill before, and wasn't dead keen on doing one either until my boyfriend, kissed me and put half a pill in my mouth and told me to swallow quickly. It was a scorching hot day, around 40 degrees. I just did what he told me to without much thought, not wanting to be the 'boring' type who never tries anything. After a while i started to feel funny, and before i knew it i had collapsed on the ground, and my dumbass boyfriend didn't do a thing, just started swearing and saying "oh no, don't let this happen, "sh*t..". A nice middle-aged woman got me up and calmed me down, and gave me some water which helped a bit. I was totally out of control after that, barely remember how we got back to a friends apartment. I had mild hallucinations, like seeing pictures coming to life and small plants growing and stuff. My boyfriend told me i was panicking and overreating on purpose and that if i just calmed down i would b normal, but he was f*cked from taking a pill from the same batch as me, repeating to me about 15 times that "i just need to chil out", which just freaked me out even more. The next day my boyfriend said it was my fault for reacting so badly to e and that if i'd had stayed calm, then everything would have been alright and that it was so slack of me to freak him out so much, and that he didn't want to be friends with me anymore. I went home, and he called to make up with me, but i broke up with him. I cant believe the guy would be such a downright jerk to me when i could have died that day. Do you think i overreacted in general at all? Im glad the relationships over at least thanks for listening Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 good for you! you are much better off without him. i was in a similar situation a couple times when i was younger. though i was with friends they were always concerned and took care of me. another reason why i have not touched drugs in a very long time. i would have been devestated if a boyfriend had acted like that. you made the right decision. Link to post Share on other sites
Bullgator Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 I had never done a pill before, and wasn't dead keen on doing one either until my boyfriend, kissed me and put half a pill in my mouth and told me to swallow quickly. In some jurisdictions,this would qualify as assault. The next day my boyfriend said it was my fault for reacting so badly to e and that if i'd had stayed calm, then everything would have been alright and that it was so slack of me to freak him out so much, and that he didn't want to be friends with me anymore. Even though it *might* be true that your experience would have been less unpleasant had you been more calm, that does not excuse his behavior. You and only you should be deciding what you put in your body. He did nothing to obtain your consent, and he was totally unprepared to support you should your experience turn bad. I went home, and he called to make up with me, but i broke up with him. I cant believe the guy would be such a downright jerk to me when i could have died that day. Do you think i overreacted in general at all? You did not overreact. You did the right thing. JMHO Link to post Share on other sites
wizedup Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 Your boyfriend sounds like a real loser. Run, don't walk, away from him forever. Any man who is so uncaring and without compassion or empathy scares the hell out of me. Sounds like he's in pretty deep (in the drug scene.) And please recognize the danger signs when the next man walks into your life. Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 I cant believe your post is about whether you over reacted or not. This guy is a huge, going nowhere in life, drug addicted, loser. Do YOU want to be WITH a guy like that? Do you want to be KNOWN as being with a guy like that? Because that will be the way YOU will begin to be viewed, you know. Misery loves company. Thats what addicts do. They try to find people that are LIKE them. They try and get everyone to PARTY with them. Trust me,...I know. Im a recovering alcoholic. Two and a half years. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 You did the right thing when you broke up with this loser!! No, you were not overreacting. When it comes to drugs, noone is overreacting, you should freak out about it as you are reeking havic on your body! You can't let someone who is strung out all the time define anything about you, they just can't make concious and rational decisions about anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livi_04 Posted June 19, 2006 Author Share Posted June 19, 2006 aw thanks u guys r so sweet Yeah hanging out with that guy for so long was probably the biggest mistake of my life. Im gonna watch out so that i dont end up with another guy like him, thanx for the support Too many pills and too much coke has already screwed with that guys head for good. u guys r right thanks again xoxo Link to post Share on other sites
Poconobob Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 Hi, this experience has been haunting me for a while now, and i'd just like to hear some other peoples opinions on this On new years day of 2006, i went to a huge rave party during the day held in a park with my boyfriend. This guy is always doing cocaine or otherwise weed, although i did love the guy. I had never done a pill before, and wasn't dead keen on doing one either until my boyfriend, kissed me and put half a pill in my mouth and told me to swallow quickly. It was a scorching hot day, around 40 degrees. I just did what he told me to without much thought, not wanting to be the 'boring' type who never tries anything. After a while i started to feel funny, and before i knew it i had collapsed on the ground, and my dumbass boyfriend didn't do a thing, just started swearing and saying "oh no, don't let this happen, "sh*t..". A nice middle-aged woman got me up and calmed me down, and gave me some water which helped a bit. I was totally out of control after that, barely remember how we got back to a friends apartment. I had mild hallucinations, like seeing pictures coming to life and small plants growing and stuff. My boyfriend told me i was panicking and overreating on purpose and that if i just calmed down i would b normal, but he was f*cked from taking a pill from the same batch as me, repeating to me about 15 times that "i just need to chil out", which just freaked me out even more. The next day my boyfriend said it was my fault for reacting so badly to e and that if i'd had stayed calm, then everything would have been alright and that it was so slack of me to freak him out so much, and that he didn't want to be friends with me anymore. I went home, and he called to make up with me, but i broke up with him. I cant believe the guy would be such a downright jerk to me when i could have died that day. Do you think i overreacted in general at all? Im glad the relationships over at least thanks for listening NOBODY has the right to do that to you. Now as for his problem ... He reacted that way out of panic and then was trying to be a "man" and keep with being stupid. He is obviously a drug abuser. I wouldn't stay, you didn't overreact. bob Link to post Share on other sites
Author livi_04 Posted June 20, 2006 Author Share Posted June 20, 2006 NOBODY has the right to do that to you. Now as for his problem ... He reacted that way out of panic and then was trying to be a "man" and keep with being stupid. He is obviously a drug abuser. I wouldn't stay, you didn't overreact. Aw thanx bob ur a sweetie x I reckon ur right, he just panicked rather than acting like a mature person. He didn't know how to react when i passed out, someone else actually had to come and help me, he was just like "oh no, dont do this". I am already allergic to some medications so it was probably quite dangerous for me to have been put in that situation. This guy is so mashed from all the drugs hes taken that his short term memory often blanks out now.. : / I guess its a lesson learnt that partners like that can't really look after you when they've already got major problems. Its hard to cut contact with someone you love, but after they do something like that to you, its for the best i guess.. Link to post Share on other sites
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