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Hi all,

 

I need some feedback on this issue:

 

My ex boyfriend and I broke up a little more than a week ago for the 5th time. We have been together for approximately 2 and 1/2 years, but for this past year, it has been on and off again.

 

We always break up for stupid reasons: me being moody and him being too unreasonable, or him being too hot headed and me not understanding enough. Well, stuff like that. It's never been a "bad" reason.

 

We broke up this last time agreeing we would be friends and that we would keep in touch every now and then. I ended up seeing him last week which seems to have struck an emotional cord in him.

 

We saw each other again this weekend because he invited me over. I inteded to stay only a little bit, but he asked me to stay longer and we started talking and we ended up sleeping together.

 

I told him I wasn't going to be his backburner friend and he was totally offended by my even saying that. I told him we wouldn't be able to be friends because we obviously still loved one another and that it just wouldn't work.

 

We talked some more and he said that maybe we should just take it slowly:

 

He said that we should see each other only once or twice a week, like we used to when we first got together. He said he thought this would help because it would make him miss me more, and that "missing someone is the first step to things being right again."-his words.

 

So, he said we should see each other more sparingly, as if we were dating. He then said it would be weird because we had been together for so long, but that maybe things would be all right and well again soon.

 

I slept over at his place and he brought me home early today morning, but before I left, I told him jokingly that I didn't know about him but that to me he was still by bf and he just smiled and said that I was his gf.

 

After he dropped me off and got back home he called me and told me he loved me.

 

He didn't call me when he got home from work though like he always does (when we're together). I got kinda worried so I called him and he sounded kinda cold. Well not cold but pretty "whatever." I told him he didn't call me when he got home and he just said 'oh, I was going to call...' Right.

 

I told him to call me later and he said he would, so we'll see.

 

I'm just kinda confused, I guess. I know calling me when he gets home from work is not all that a big deal, but it was one of those little things he did to make me happy.

 

I don't know if I should ask him if I should expect those calls or just go with the flow. I don't want to pressure him.

 

I just felt uneasy when I called him because he didn't sound like he did when he called me in the morning.

 

And it's just hard to revert back to seeing each other sparingly, although I can handle that, but the every now and then phone calls makes it weird.

 

What should I do? Should I ask him next time I see him or should I just let it be?