heartbrokenscorpio Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 i just lost my fiance of 2 years last week. i was very controlling towards him and i cheated on him a year ago with his best friend. i ended up telling him a year and a half after it happened and it broke his heart. he was mad at me but wasnt mad at his best friend.i feel really bad for what i did and now he has moved on to liking another girl after just one week. he said that she does things for him that i wouldnt do and they dont argue like we did all the time. he doesnt want to see me or talk to me and i have tried to get advise and its always the same" let him go and if it is meant to be he will be back" but it has been a week and i am going out my mind! i cant eat, sleep or take my mind of of him no matter how hard i try. i am a scorpio and he is a gemini so we already have a love, hate relationship but i want him back. he is the only person i have ever loved and i want things to get better between us. i guess what im tryin to ask is for advise on how to get him back when he likes someone else and if he is going to forgive me for what i did to him.i know i need to give him time but i am afraid that if i give him time he will get serious with the girl he likes now. also i feel hurt because he has already slept with her and likes her after 1 week of us not being together! can someone please help me! ~heartbrokenscorpio Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 You cheated on him, he has now moved on with another woman, just let him live and be happy now that you are out of his life. Give up on him, you ruined it cause you couldn't keep your legs closed! Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 how can i get him back? Your answer....You cant!! To be honest, and truthful. If someone cheated on me, and it was also with my best friend, then may the ground beneath them open up, and swallow them up - never to be seen again. Seriousily though. I dont think you will ever get him back. You chose to cheat on him!! He`s found someone to love him for who he is. He is the only person i have ever loved and i want things to get better between us. You sure know how to show someone you love by sleeping with somebody else! You`ve learned your mistake. Now find another person to love, and stay commited. Stop being so `controlling`, and have some self respect for yourself. Stop cheating. You may have by-passed Mr. Right. For what? A one night stand!? Live with it, and dont do it again! Link to post Share on other sites
Cathy1 Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 Although cheating, and especially cheating with BF's best friend is a serious violation, I don't think we are here to judge people that are asking for our help ....But to try to help the most in given circumstances...... Heartbrokenscorpio - it is so soon now to do anything or to make prognosis what might be.... You must give your ex finance some time and leave him alone and not harass him..... After certain amount of time is gone, meet with him, apologize sincerely, say that you understand that after that, two of you cannot be together but you are at least hoping to be on friendly terms and apologize again - say that that was horrible what you did and if he had done something similar, that you would have had suffered deeply - admit your mistake but do not seek for reconciliation, that is - do not spell it out for him or show it obviously, let alone do any kind of pressure....... If there is a way to get him back, I think this is the one... For what is worth, I think the chances of him ending up with this girl are not very high...Statistically, majority of relationships do not work out, especially if they have been the rebound ones, and this one seems to be such.... At this point you just have to give it some time, NOW you cannot change anything....Please focus on yourself, and build again your daily routine, which includes sleeping and eating and all other essential things....View it as a first step in getting your ex BF back! And you know what they say at Adidas- "IMPOSSIBLE IS NOTHING!" :-) I think that it is possible to win him back - just stay positive but at the moment focus on yourself and yourself getting better! Take care, Cathy Link to post Share on other sites
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