divorce to dating

[Eric]

I am a 32 year old man, dating a 22 year old woman with

 

2 daughters.I've never been married and have no kids. I really love this girl even though we've

 

only known each other for a few months. She just got out

 

of an abusive marrage and her divorce was final today.

 

I guess my question is am I the first of many men she'll

 

have in her life after getting out of such a situation or

 

do new loves like this ever work? She is a little bit of

 

a party girl and seems to have an endless supply of friends

 

and I am just a guy with a job that would like to settle

 

down.

[Mike]

I am taking abuse for my "anymore nice girls?" postings but my advice is "Run for your life". I have been in your situation and it probably won't work out. You are next and because you care-you may get hurt. You might be able to keep her as a friend and let her date for a while (I know that sucks). At 22 she probably isn't mature enough or looking for a solid relationship yet. A worst case scenario may be she is unsure of what happens now and you will be a rock she can depend on when she needs money, when she has had too much too drink, and when she wants to make her ex jealous.

 

Proceed with caution, and I personally would get out now. But that is a judgement you have to make. You know her I don't. She may be an exception.

[Jess]

I was in the same situation but on the opposite end. I was a young, divorcee with children. When I got my divorce I felt a surge of freedom and wanted to go out and indulge in it. I am sure she is feeling the same way. Not knowing her personally and her morals, it is hard to say what she is doing but I think it would be best for you to back off and if possible, remain friends. Right now she needs her space to find out what she wants in life. Also, whether she knows it or not, she needs to learn to survive on her own. It will make her a stronger person when she is ready to settle down.

I am a 32 year old man, dating a 22 year old woman with 2 daughters.I've never been married and have no kids. I really love this girl even though we've

 

only known each other for a few months. She just got out of an abusive marrage and her divorce was final today. I guess my question is am I the first of many men she'll have in her life after getting out of such a situation or do new loves like this ever work? She is a little bit of a party girl and seems to have an endless supply of friends and I am just a guy with a job that would like to settle down.

[Jasmine]

I agree with Jess. For her sake if you care to think about her, I wouldn't desert her, but I also wouldn't hang on to any hopes that she will want to settle down again soon. As Jess said, I've been there too - not with kids - but as a 22 year old from an abusive marriage just divorced. She needs to figure out who she is and get away from the part of her that made her settle for the marriage she was in. It took me at least a year to get on my way........

I was in the same situation but on the opposite end. I was a young, divorcee with children. When I got my divorce I felt a surge of freedom and wanted to go out and indulge in it. I am sure she is feeling the same way. Not knowing her personally and her morals, it is hard to say what she is doing but I think it would be best for you to back off and if possible, remain friends. Right now she needs her space to find out what she wants in life. Also, whether she knows it or not, she needs to learn to survive on her own. It will make her a stronger person when she is ready to settle down.