confused423 Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 so my gf turns 21 the other day were in long distance relationship where i see here just about every weekend, im not a big partier and she has always told me she was the same, now that shes 21 i dont know how shes gonna turn out, do i just wait until she gets drunk one night and cheats on me or do i end this now and save some of my heart. ive seen her drunk before and she didnt go crazy, but she wasnt really 21 then, now she can go out whenever she wants, what do am i susposed to think when i ask her if she would call me before she falls asleep even if its 3 in the morning just so i know she made it home safely, she tells me that shell try but sometimes she knows shes gonna forget. i dont drink first of all so i dont really know if being drunk would make you forget to call someone, and i dont know if i should just take what she says and be greatful that shell try, or look at it as though she just dosent care enough about me to throw me even a txt message that shes safe, i worry about her is that wrong, does that make me possive? Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 You are way overthinking this. You say you don't know how she'll turn out. Well, wait and see. If you dump her because she's 21 and legally able to drink, you are going to have some issues finding women. Not all people cheat when they get drunk. Yes, being drunk can cause you to forget things, but lots of times is causes you to make more phone calls than you originally intended, so it could go either way. I think this is more an issue of the long distance and trust than it is of the drinking. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 Hi confused, I just responded to your other post and if I think you should break up, I think it is because of the statements you made in that one. I guess you will have to see how mature your gf is (since she thinks you are so immature I guess she feels shes all grown up) and how responsible she will be when she is intoxicated. If she is really drunk, then I doubt she will remember to call you, but hey, I'm not her so I don't know. These are questions we really can't answer. Her being 21 and drinking in public now doesn't mean she will cheat on you. It really doesn't have anything to do with alcohol it has to do with the persons intent. If she already intends to cheat on you, then alcohol will only take away any inhabitions she has about it. Are these issues you talked with her about or did she just tell you to shut up because you are so immature? Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused423 Posted June 20, 2006 Author Share Posted June 20, 2006 we talked about this but she calles them insecurities, which is just something im gonna have to work on i guess. what i dont understand is why im so insecure, i dont really think its all me whos just making shes gotta be doing something to make me feel insecure? or am i just tottaly off? Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 we talked about this but she calles them insecurities, which is just something im gonna have to work on i guess. what i dont understand is why im so insecure, i dont really think its all me whos just making shes gotta be doing something to make me feel insecure? or am i just tottaly off? The question is definately, who is making you feel insecure? Think about that... Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Well hopefully she won't now spend all her spare time going out and getting drunk. If she does, you'd have more reasons to break up with her than the possibility of cheating. For starters, she'd be boring as hell. Link to post Share on other sites
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