Just friends?

[Whatever]

Ok..I got a problem here. Theres this guy that I've been friends with for about a year. We kinda hang out together. Things were going pretty good and well, I think I screwed it all up. I told him about 3 weeks ago that I'm crazy about him. He stared at me for a really long time and said that the smart thing to do would be for us to stay friends. I said that I didn't always do the smart thing and he said he never does. However, since that time, nothing has happened. We've just gone on like before. Still friends, no physical contact whatsoever. I don't feel that he is avoiding me, but, we are both pretty nervous around each other. When its just us, we do fine, but, if there are any of our mutual friends around, well, its kinda nerve racking. So, question is, do I give him some time, or, is it time to move on?

[Dragonflys]

Whatever,

 

If you can handle being friends with him, do so. Friendship has it's benefits and you can also meet other guys through him. If you can't handle being friends with him, just tell him how you feel and distance yourself a bit, and see how he responds. If nothing happens you may have to move on with your life, Don't waste all your feelings if you will always be left empty.

 

Oliver

[arthropod98]

i agree with oliver on this one!

 

give yourself some credit . . . you TOLD him!! you were honest, and you told him how you feel. how many posts have you read on this forum where people say NOTHING -- i think this is GREAT!!

 

things will be slightly awkward now though, no doubt. if you can handle that, then you're fine . . . cause you TOLD him!! otherwise, i also think you might have to start keeping your distance a little.

 

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

Ok..I got a problem here. Theres this guy that I've been friends with for about a year. We kinda hang out together. Things were going pretty good and well, I think I screwed it all up. I told him about 3 weeks ago that I'm crazy about him. He stared at me for a really long time and said that the smart thing to do would be for us to stay friends. I said that I didn't always do the smart thing and he said he never does. However, since that time, nothing has happened. We've just gone on like before. Still friends, no physical contact whatsoever. I don't feel that he is avoiding me, but, we are both pretty nervous around each other. When its just us, we do fine, but, if there are any of our mutual friends around, well, its kinda nerve racking. So, question is, do I give him some time, or, is it time to move on?

[Tara]

I agree with Oliver on this one ,give each other space and I bet he will see that you are serouis

i agree with oliver on this one! give yourself some credit . . . you TOLD him!! you were honest, and you told him how you feel. how many posts have you read on this forum where people say NOTHING -- i think this is GREAT!!

 

things will be slightly awkward now though, no doubt. if you can handle that, then you're fine . . . cause you TOLD him!! othe

 

[Whatever]

Hey, thank you all for your responses. I'm still debating wether we can be just friends or not. It puts me in a wierd situation. e.g...I always called before, if I call now, I feel like he'll think I'm pushing..If I don't call, I feel like he'll think I'm backing off..I feel right now like I can't win. I'm very uncomfortable..simply because I don't know what I'm suppose to do. We are both adults..I'm 34 and he's 55..seems kinda wierd that we're acting like teenagers...Thanks

Whatever, If you can handle being friends with him, do so. Friendship has it's benefits and you can also meet other guys through him. If you can't handle being friends with him, just tell him how you feel and distance yourself a bit, and see how he responds. If nothing happens you may have to move on with your life, Don't waste all your feelings if you will always be left empty. Oliver