Work or me

[Bella]

My SO stood me up for a date last night. I called him 3 times and he finally called me at 9:15 saying he got stuck on a conference call. He never said he was sorry or whatever. He explained why and told me he was going home to go to bed as he was going on travel in the early am. He told me he just was exhausted and wanted to get on to his next priority. I got mad about being stood up and then about not even getting 5 minutes of his time. I told him he was rude! He told me we should both agree not to be mad. We have been together 3 months. He is constantly on travel, busy w/ work, etc. I take a very back seat in life I guess. How do I talk to him about the way I feel. It is very hurtful.

[arthropod98]

i wouldn't attack him just yet. although i don't like the way he handled the situation, i still wouldn't go on the defensive just yet. not really a "smooth" way to bring this up, so maybe you could just ask what exactly his priorities are, and that you didn't appreciate the way the situation was handled. then, depending on his response, and how you feel about it, you can make YOUR decisions about the relationship.

 

GOOD LUCK!!!

My SO stood me up for a date last night. I called him 3 times and he finally called me at 9:15 saying he got stuck on a conference call. He never said he was sorry or whatever. He explained why and told me he was going home to go to bed as he was going on travel in the early am. He told me he just was exhausted and wanted to get on to his next priority. I got mad about being stood up and then about not even getting 5 minutes of his time. I told him he was rude! He told me we should both agree not to be mad. We have been together 3 months. He is constantly on travel, busy w/ work, etc. I take a very back seat in life I guess. How do I talk to him about the way I feel. It is very hurtful.

[george mcfly]

You've only been together for 3 months, you don't "own him yet" (note sarcasm). Sometimes in a person's career or work life, things come up that aren't planned, like conference calls or meetings or having to travel. That's life. I assume when you began dating him, you realized he had a busy career and traveled for work, no? So I guess this is all part of it. YOu have to decide whether you can be happy with someone who works hard. And flipping out on him isn't going to make things better. Most people who work hard are busy during the week, they go out and spend time together on weekends. I say give the guy a break. If he's a workaholic you can't change him. Maybe you should find a guy whose schedule is more similar to yours.

My SO stood me up for a date last night. I called him 3 times and he finally called me at 9:15 saying he got stuck on a conference call. He never said he was sorry or whatever. He explained why and told me he was going home to go to bed as he was going on travel in the early am. He told me he just was exhausted and wanted to get on to his next priority. I got mad about being stood up and then about not even getting 5 minutes of his time. I told him he was rude! He told me we should both agree not to be mad. We have been together 3 months. He is constantly on travel, busy w/ work, etc. I take a very back seat in life I guess. How do I talk to him about the way I feel. It is very hurtful.