How do i save my marriage?

[Guest]

I need help! my wife has told me 5 days ago, she doesn't love me and she loves someone else. someone she has only met once but has known online for 10 years. We have a beautiful girl of 2 years old. That's part of the problem, i was never very supportive of her, i never helped her with the child, and she regrets me for it, plus i have been verbally abusive to her for the 7+years we have been together, but i realize my mistakes now but she says it is too late, she's not in love with me, gave me 30 days to move out, and she is going to persue the relationship with this other guy, is there anyway possible i can save this? i love this girl so much, i mistreated her, i see what i have done wrong now, and i know i will be good to her and my child if she would just give me one more try, if anyone responds to this my email [email protected] would help because i don't know if i could find this page again.

 

thank-you

[Kenyth]

It's Humpty Dumpty bud. If she already want's you out, it's too far gone. You can't prevent someone from doing what they want and she's already resolved. Go ahead and move out (Make sure you divorce if she's dating again, not seperate!), let her know you still love her, and stay in touch in case her other relationship falls through, which they are wont to do. If she really want's to stay together, she won't let the divorce go through. If not, I'm sorry. You'll have to start over.

[catgirl1927]

It is too late. Besides, if you were abusive, if she takes you back you will never stop. You deserve what you are getting. People have problems in marriage, everyone does, but there is no excuse for abusing another person. You don't really deserve another chance and she would be a fool to believe you.

[AManWithTroubles]

Hold up just a second. Sometimes, when we are down, and rejected, we exaggerate our shortcomings, especially if our significant others are pointing them out. You may not have been as bad of a person that you think you were right now. I don't know, I don't really know the situation, but when I was in a similar yet different situation, I blamed myself for everything. I thought I was the worst person in the world, and deserved nothing at all, especially my wife.

 

But it may not be true. You might have been somewhat of a bad person, but maybe there was no ill will. I say start with some counseling, although it looks like you are too late. But she is running off with someone else? That's not even right. If she is through with you, it should be because you are done, not because there's someone else.

 

Get some counseling anyway, for yourself, and show her that you are willing to work on things. See if she will attend some counseling with you. I can't believe she would just run off without even working on things. Or did you already squander those opportunities?

 

How can you think you were so abusive when she's been wrapped up with someone else for the entire duration of your relationship. She sounds like the abusive one to me. There's always two sides to every argument, and it sounds like you have taken her side completely, without looking at it from another angle. Stand up for yourself man, stop being so hard on yourself.

[Kenyth]

It is too late. Besides, if you were abusive, if she takes you back you will never stop. You deserve what you are getting. People have problems in marriage, everyone does, but there is no excuse for abusing another person. You don't really deserve another chance and she would be a fool to believe you.

 

 

Be careful condemning him. As distraught as he is, he may be exagerrating his "verbal" abuse. As it is, vebal abuse is very subjective. One persons verbal abuse is another persons heated argument is another persons disagreement. Regardless of what caused it though, she want's out and there's really no stopping it now.

[Clair]

She knew him for 10 years on line?!!! And met only once. Her reason for wanting out is this misterious stranger? It's not going to work out, they don't even know each other.