iamanisland Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Hi everyone... I am not married, but may be in a year or so... I am fairly concrete in what I expect of a woman and what I plan to give. I believe that in marriage there are obligations and priorities that must be held on to no matter what. I want to list them out here and see who agrees and disagrees... This is important because I need to guage if my expectations are in any way realistic... I warn you all, I am very traditional and could care less about modern feminism and its defeminising trends... I am a supporter of stay at home wives, especially with children around. Obligations: - For a man to a woman: - Support financially as best as possible, love, care, protect, respect, be gentle, be strong always, fulfill emotionally and sexually. I myself see no problems in me being able to do all these. For the woman to the man: - Respect, obey (as in recognise that I'm the head of the house), love, care, be devoted and fulfill emotionally and sexually. From reading threads and just common knowledge, it seems women see it as totally ok to ignore the husband's need for devotion, care and sexual fulfillment... Women see these as a choice... I dont agree, as far as i'm concerned, if a wife wont put out (in all these), she should get out. Priorities: - One thing that is totally doing my head in is the realisation that women use children as the excuse of all excuses to neglect their duties to their husbands. No sex, I'm tired from being a slave to the children all day. Sorry I have no time for you, I'm busy with the kids. etc etc etc... As far as I'm concerned, my wife's first priority is me, then the kids. And viceversa, that is, she is my first priority, then the kids. I'm sick of this thing where kids are worshipped by women and submitted to all day. If you make kids the center of the world they will grow up into the crap that people are nowadays... The husband and wife are the sun, the children are the planets. I hear so much that for women, kids come first, to me that is just such BS! I mean why should they? All you do is make them feel privileged and superior for no good reason. It turns them into the selfish me me me people that populate the world. Love your kids fine... but let them know who the boss is, that they come second to parents, that their wants are actually not that important etc... They should know their place! Also, kids are essentially users who take take take and who then go away when they can, your husband is there always, sacrificing for you, working to support you, and aiming to protect and love you. You OWE him your devotion, and yes to have sex even when its not exactly what you want to do. Men have strong sexual needs, at least I do, and I have waited all this time and remained completely virgin (by CHOICE), not so that my wife could blackmail me with sex, or just plain neglect my needs for any reason, especially kids. Also, sex for me is a very important way of being very close and intimate with me wife, not the only way, but an important way. I've told my prospective that if I ever though that I would come after the kids in priority with her that I would divorce her before she had time to wipe another snotty face. I also told her that witholding sex was not an option. (excluding periods that is). I'm absolutely rigid on these, I will give 100% to my wife, but if I don't get it back I have no problem dumping her and moving on. I should say, I expect my wife to do her duty to me, but not if I am not doing my duty to her... So... any opionions???? Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 duplicate post; see here. Original discussion already running in this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
rude dude Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Notice the first thing on your list was his financial obligations, not his love. HMMMMMMMMMM? Link to post Share on other sites
flowergirl Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 This s***t is a joke, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 This ran its course in the thread referenced in post #2 above. Check it out there to see the full discussion. If you thought this was good, just wait until you see the whole thing.... Link to post Share on other sites
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