IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 So this weekend is out bachelorette/bachelor party. My Maid of honor asked me if I wanted a girl or guy stripper. Guy stripper freak me out..they do this weird helicopter thing with their weiner..not sexy..So I said girl. She suggested that we do a joint one. I fully agreed b/c I KNOW if it were to be just my bachelorette party, the cocaine would be flowing. And even tho I really want to have one last hoorah with that, Its better I didn't. I have zero will power so its not like I would keep him in the back of my head that it wrong to do that when I know he hates it, so I figure just party with him Anyone ever have a joint one? P.S. I also dont mind strippers dancing on him. He didn't want one to begin with..so the only solution......GET HIM 2 Strippers! Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 I think it would be strange to have joint parties. I see these parties as some bonding time for you and your friends. Of course if you can't hang out with the girls without doing coke....that's a different story. Maybe just skip yours instead? Have a shower and go out to dinner, include your mom and how crazy can it get? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 22, 2006 Author Share Posted June 22, 2006 But i would love to have it with him. We have such a good time together. Plus I want to see his face when the girl rubs her boobies in his face! He's gonna hate it! I had the shower thing...it was fun..but it had all the aunts and cousins and stuff..a little stufy for me..if the shower was up to me I would have had it in Atlantic City in a bar! Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 Plus I want to see his face when the girl rubs her boobies in his face! He's gonna hate it! And what if he doesn't? What if he thinks he's going to hate it, but is so into the party that it's fun for him? What if he gets a big boner, because of the stipper, in front of all of your friends? That's a real possibility, so you should think about it. If it's okay with both of you, have a great time! I know I did at mine! Link to post Share on other sites
BenJammin Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 Plus I want to see his face when the girl rubs her boobies in his face! He's gonna hate it! yeah, no he;s not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 22, 2006 Author Share Posted June 22, 2006 And what if he doesn't? What if he thinks he's going to hate it, but is so into the party that it's fun for him? What if he gets a big boner, because of the stipper, in front of all of your friends? That's a real possibility, so you should think about it. If it's okay with both of you, have a great time! I know I did at mine! Not that I'm saying he's not a real guy...but b/c he loves me so much and I'm the only one he wants..he wouldn't get a boner. He doesn't get turned on by anyone but me. (and I know this cause I bought him a lap dance and..nothing) He said he would rather have me do it! Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 Not that I'm saying he's not a real guy...but b/c he loves me so much and I'm the only one he wants..he wouldn't get a boner. He doesn't get turned on by anyone but me. (and I know this cause I bought him a lap dance and..nothing) He said he would rather have me do it! :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: I'm sorry. That is the most naive thing I've ever read. While you may be the only one he wants as a wife, and maybe the only one he conciously thinks about making love to, biology rules, and men are gonna get turned on by women other than those that they love. That's how the body works. Maybe he won't get a boner from the lap dance (my husband didn't at his, but he was also VERY VERY drunk by the time they got to the stip club), but I don't think it's an emotionally wise move to go into the situation assuming he won't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 22, 2006 Author Share Posted June 22, 2006 I'm not naive if its true. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 AFAIK I've never heard of a man who could supress the natural arousal reaction that comes with physical stimulation, I mean, even babies get boners, IHNFC. I'm just saying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 22, 2006 Author Share Posted June 22, 2006 Well, if he's not turned on....then it's a natural thing not happening. Did I word that right? Link to post Share on other sites
BenJammin Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 i'm a guy if i'm not attracted to someone or something, it's not gonna work, if you know what i mean. an ugly chick or a relative giving me a lap dance won't do anything to ben the 2nd. but i'm a guy, and even if i love a girl, most strippers aren't bad-looking (some of em are hot) and have nice t&a, it's goina work that time. not because i love the stripper though, because it is natural to be attracted other peopel. if i had a girlfriend who got me a lapance and got mad because i got a big ol' bone, i woulnd't know whether to laugh or be pissed off about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 He is just telling you that to make you feel special.. and there is nothing wrong with that.. Some people tell each other that they could never live without another knowing full well they can. Men get an erection every night as part of R.E.M. sleep.. we truly can't control our erections.. But we can think stuff away.. just as your BF was thinking it away when you bought him a lapdance.. It wasn't that he wasn't turned on by her.. it was that he wanted to make you feel special.. so he willed it away.. What a guy you have there.. Link to post Share on other sites
BenJammin Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 then what's the point of bothering with giving him a dance if he can't/doesn't won't enjoy it? Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 if i had a girlfriend who got me a lapance and got mad because i got a big ol' bone, i woulnd't know whether to laugh or be pissed off about it. And you would be completely justified in either reaction. IHNFC, just be careful. What would you feel if he did get turned on? Would it ruin your night, or would you be okay with it? Link to post Share on other sites
scrybe74 Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 I think it's great that you want him to enjoy a lapdance. Seems to me you two have a pretty strong bond. I can see, though, how he would be uncomfortable ENJOYING the lapdance while you are watching. It might be kinda weird for some guys. Sometimes guys separate strippers and anything sexual like that from the idea of their wives being involved. The whole 'slut vs. madonna' conflict. It's why some guys can go to a strip club and get a boner but their wife does a dance on the pole and the get nothin'. Anyway...I'm rambling - I just think he may be too uncomfortable to let loose with you in a room. If you REALLY want him to enjoy it then let him have his own separate bachelor party. Tell him it's okay with you for him to have a stripper and enjoy the experience and you won't ask any questions....just don't 'do' her because he saves that for you. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarplum Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 I thought guys got boners over as little as the wind blowing - I don't think assuming that he wont over a lap dance is realistic. I realize I don't know him or anything. Its not about emotion for men. No matter how much he doesn't want to, to show his love for you, its really isn't something he can chose to happen or not happen. And the bit about it happening to babies, well that's just sick - but also true! Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 23, 2006 Author Share Posted June 23, 2006 And you would be completely justified in either reaction. IHNFC, just be careful. What would you feel if he did get turned on? Would it ruin your night, or would you be okay with it? See...I don't think I would get mad. The strippers are hot...It would be natural for him to get aroused by these women doing what they do..I don't get mad when he says women are good looking..I know he's coming home with me. Its not like he wants to go have sex with them....Like you all said, it wold be easy for him to get aroused...so if it happens it like something funny that happened at the party! Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 I think it's great that you want him to enjoy a lapdance. Seems to me you two have a pretty strong bond. I can see, though, how he would be uncomfortable ENJOYING the lapdance while you are watching. It might be kinda weird for some guys. Sometimes guys separate strippers and anything sexual like that from the idea of their wives being involved. The whole 'slut vs. madonna' conflict. It's why some guys can go to a strip club and get a boner but their wife does a dance on the pole and the get nothin'. Anyway...I'm rambling - I just think he may be too uncomfortable to let loose with you in a room. If you REALLY want him to enjoy it then let him have his own separate bachelor party. Tell him it's okay with you for him to have a stripper and enjoy the experience and you won't ask any questions....just don't 'do' her because he saves that for you. Wow. f***. Some men are just awful. I hope you're single. Link to post Share on other sites
scrybe74 Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 Wow. f***. Some men are just awful. I hope you're single. Why do you hope I'm single? (I'm not by the way) I was merely making an observation on SOME guys based on my experience. Never said I was that guy. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 Why do you hope I'm single? (I'm not by the way) I was merely making an observation on SOME guys based on my experience. Never said I was that guy. The fact that you say you're not one of those guys tells me you know exactly why I would hope no woman was foolish enough to waste her time if you WERE that kind of guy. Some men see a bachelor party (anyone's, not just theirs, not that it makes a difference) as a free pass to cheat. Tell him it's ok for him to "have" a stripper, and it will always have to be ok for him to "have" her, and the next thing she knows the wife has an STD, all her friends are laughing at how stupid she is, and some stripper will be at her house with a child that looks alarmly like her husband demanding money. Link to post Share on other sites
scrybe74 Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 I see your point but you missed my original point. Or rather we need to clarify what I meant by 'have' a stripper. I think the original poster and I were both talking about a stripper performance that the girlfriend/fiancee agrees with. Nobody said anything about having sex with a stripper and I think most average guys don't think a bachelor party is a free pass to cheat. If my girlfriend and I get married and she wanted me to have a stripper at the party so be it. That's between me and her and I don't see anything wrong with it. Bottom line - having a stripper do a performance at a bachelor party and having sex with someone else other than your fiancee/gf/wife are two entirely different things. But I agree with you that a man who uses that oppurtunity to cheat on his wife is not someone I'd want any woman I know to be with. But chances are that THAT kinda guy doesn't need a bachelor party to cheat. Chances are he's cheating already and will cheat later on. Link to post Share on other sites
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