Any Ideas How To Handle this?

[Neketah]

I've been married for 16 yrs. I love married life. I've been totally faithful to my husband. About 2 or 3 yr.s ago my husband had feelings for another woman, I had my suspicions. So I investgated and it turned out to be true..I saw him kiss her and hug her.I confronted him and of course he denied it at first. then I told him I saw them. Then he confessed. but it wasn't until much later he told me all what had happened. But he said they never had sex. It took me a while to begin to trust him, I still don't completely trust him. Now moving on...I believe he has a thing for another woman, he still denies it.. but as you know I'm my own investigator. I check cell phone bills, to see how often and how long they talk. Now this girl is suppose to be a friend of ours. Her kids are my God children. well just to shorten this one.. the other night I told my husband, It's something wrong when she calls and ask to speak to him only..He claims she's talking about the guy she broke up with (yeah right).He didn't try to defend himself when I told him what I think. He just sat there quietly. I am not a bad person. I cook for him, clean, wash and iron his clothes.. I love doing these things. But the trust will never be the same.Any Ideas how to handle this?

[sugarplum]

Yikes! Counseling or ultimatums are all I can think of right now! You need to make some decisions about your own life - never mind him. He has proven to be a repeat cheater. And right in front of you with the phone call! Maybe I am old fashioned, but I think it is very inappropriate for a single woman to call a married man about her break up, looking for a shoulder to cry on! That takes balls for sure. Is this how you want to live the rest of your life? wondering who he is with now? do you have children? Do you really believe that he didn't have sex with the first woman? What kind of STD's might he be sharing with you? Have you talked to this "other woman"? I think you need to.