Kissing/making out considered infidelity???

[foxtails_pm]

I dunno but infidelity is such a BIG word, that's only to be use in describing when there's couple and one of them screws (have sex) with another person or if someone marry commits adultery. Only sex is cheating, well to me. See my parents use to kiss and have some make sessions and it would never be cheating. That's what almost all my family members say, that it's only cheating if you actually have any type of sex, since that's serious and can get your partner at risk, to them and me, that's unforgivable.

Then again, I been hearing already too much about kissing/making considered as being "unfaithful". Mind ya, on this one occassion where I found two girls attracted, I wanted to kiss them, almost, but I wasn't sure if g/f would think the same, so I didn't, but the temptation was there. As why I wanted to kiss them, I dunno, no reason whatsoever.

[NTB]

if you have a gf and your making out with other females in my book its cheating.

[foxtails_pm]

I'm not but I was once tempted to for fun but then was thinking "What if she thinks differently"!!!!!!!! Now there's this girl on a porn website and well I was thinking of cybering with her, but then again, I dunno if that's even consider cheating too. Now I'm confuse, keep hearing people saying cybering (dirty talk) or phone sex is cheating?? Why if it's only virtualy, you're NOT having real life sex.

[bab]

Here's the thing. You can define what cheating is to you all day long. That is, you can define what you think your GF can do with other guys that you consider cheating, but you can't define it for yourself. You can say, I believe that making out is not cheating, therefore if my gf wants to make out with other guys, that is fine by me. You cannot say: I believe that making out is not cheating, therefore I can make out with whomever I would like. Do you see the difference? If your gf says that you can make out with whomever you like, that's fine, but unless she did, you can't just decide that for her. If she decides some action is cheating, then regardless of what you believe, it is cheating. Now sometimes people have very different views on what constitutes cheating, and sometimes they are small enough that they can respect each others varying wishes, on the other hand when the definitions are drastically different for one member of the relationship than the other, all hell is bound to eventually break loose. It might break loose in one breaking the "rules" set by the more conservative partner, or by the more "free love" partner feeling resentment to their current partner.

[reservoirdog1]

If you can think about what you're doing/planning to do with the other person and say to yourself "I would never do this if my BF/GF/H/W were watching me", then it's cheating. Simple.

[Kenyth]

The solution to your dilemma is simple. Ask your girlfriend if she minds you doing it. You'll have your answer in short order I'm sure. If you're scared to ask her because you may upset her, then you already know the answer, don't you.

[plainoldjared]

foxtails, would you be ok with your gf kissing other guys?

[brightskies]

Hell yeah, it's cheating. Unless you've both established that you're swingers/in an open relationship. Key words: both established. You can't make assumptions regarding what your partner might think.

[foxtails_pm]

foxtails, would you be ok with your gf kissing other guys?

 

I would not mind a bit, I would be like "Ok, yea wutever". Then again, i don't know if it would work the same way if I were to do it, I'm gonna talk to her about it sometime tommorow, today she had classes.

 

 

[foxtails_pm]

Hell yeah, it's cheating. Unless you've both established that you're swingers/in an open relationship. Key words: both established. You can't make assumptions regarding what your partner might think.

 

You're right about it, gonna have to talk to her about it, don't wanna jump to conclusions based on my beliefs and end up hurting her.

[j.carsey]

It's cheating, dude. Unless somehow you can bring the 2nd girl together with you two (good luck)

[RecordProducer]

You're right about it, gonna have to talk to her about it, don't wanna jump to conclusions based on my beliefs and end up hurting her.

You better choose carefully how you approach her about this. If you tell her:

Mind ya, on this one occassion where I found two girls attracted, I wanted to kiss them, almost, but I wasn't sure if g/f would think the same, so I didn't, but the temptation was there. As why I wanted to kiss them, I dunno, no reason whatsoever.

she will most likely be very hurt and never trust you again. Just ask her if she considers kissing to be cheating. If she asks why you're asking, say: "I dunno, no reason whatsoever."

[sugarplum]

is the definition of cheating different for marrieds and LTR's? if so, why?

[Art_Critic]

this is a no brainer..

 

anytime intimate body parts touch/enter other intimate body parts of another that isn't your SO then you are cheating..

 

A kiss is not a handshake !

 

Shoving your tongue inside another person's mouth falls into that catagory.

[Teag]

Of course making out with someone else is cheating.You can have emotional affairs with people & not even kiss & its still considered cheating. Unless you BOTH like that life style and agree its ok then its cheating. My husband made out with someone else & I left him, he begged to come home, I eventually let him but if it were to EVER happen again, you can garantee my ass will be at the court house filing for divorce.