Re: my girlfriend

[Tony T]

Trust me, chances are great that she feels as bad or worse than she describes. However, she may not be getting as good of medical treatment as is available today. Advise her to talk around and see another doctor or doctors who may put her on a therapy regimen that will enable her to live a more normal life.

 

Chances are good there are more than one or two things going on here. She may be in menopause or premenopause but she may also be suffering from depression, a mood disorder or some other brain chemical imbalance. Some women suffer a lot more than others during this time and menopause can often mask other more serious afflictions.

 

You are not obligated to be around her during this time or any other time. If you don't want to believe her or if you just don't want to put up with it, I promise you she will be much better off coping alone and supporting herself than having you around to put her down.

 

Move out!!!

[Tony T]

If she is not motivated to help herself and is noncompliant with medical instructions and advice, you can do two things.

 

1. Tell her clearly that if she will not consistently follow the medical advice she is given, she must move out.

 

At the same time, let her know there are many kinds of medications for the same thing so if one makes her feel worse, she should CALL THE DOCTOR AND LET HIM KNOW so another medication can be prescribed that may agree with her.

 

2. Just tell her to move out. Give her 30 days notice and hire a moving company scheduled for the 30th day to take all her belongings to the location she designates.

 

If you were married to her, your situation would be far more difficult. Before you ever get married (again), if you ever do, be sure to have your lady submit to a thorough physical...and even then there are no guarantees.

 

Fortunately for us men, women as a whole seem to be more patient and compassionate and more willing to stand by our sides through these sorts of things. However, patience has its limits for both men and women and I can understand why you are at wits end.

 

If she won't do what she's supposed to do and comply with her doctor's orders, make her history and get on with your life.

[Carrie]

I work for an ad agency for book publishing co. and I have a few suggestions for you which would be incredibly helpful and beneficial to her. It is an all natural and inexpensive way to physically, mentally and emotionally help her deal with going through "THE CHANGE".

 

One book is called "The Change, Before the Change, written by Dr. Laura Corio." It's for women 35 and up, who are experiencing changes in their bodies just before their bodies start the menopausal cycle (basically everything you've described about your girlfriend). Then if she's actually going through menopause, you should get her the book "The Wisdom of Menopause" written by Christiane Northrup.

 

Everything this woman says she's experiencing could be 100% true. She knows her body better than anyone and if she's not feeling right, it's because she knows something's wrong. I know it gets old for you hearing her complain all the time, and for you it's depressing and draining, but if she's really feeling bad, then she should do something about it. If she reads these books, she'll at least understand what's going on inside her and she'll at least know she's not crazy and it may help comfort her, while at the same time, taking pressure off of you.

 

Also, if you ask me, the fact that you're even writing this post, shows to me that you are concerned and very supportive, though you may not feel like you are. You sound like a great and very caring boyfriend. Her demands are probably very high right now and it may be a lot for you to handle. Just try to understand and listen to her - and whatever you do, don't tell her that it could be all in her head.

 

Good luck with everything.