Want2change Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 i was recently in a 2 month relationship that was honestly the best one i ever been in. i truly felt i could trust her and she trusted me. we talked alot and about everything and anything. it was like we were made for each other. we did know each other for about 2 years but not on a deep level, more of a superficial level. what happened was when i'm not with her i feel all messed up, wonder what shes doing, wonder if she is at work or lying, wonder if she has someone else. we also are aol and met in the chatrooms years back and became onlnie friends. i feel i cant trust her online and have a hard time thinking "its not real life so stupid things will be said and done". basically what happened was my untrustingness and reacting to things like a nitwit made her decide to leave me. we are still friends and still feel deeply about each other but i do feel i could earn her trust back in the future. basically what i need help with is how do i let things go? how do i stop my mind from playing all these hurtful story lines i think are happening? how can i basically truly feel the trust thing and not question it? not only to be with her but if we didnt get back together i dont want it to come out on someone else. its like i cant stop myself and when i try to do the right thing it conflicts with the wrong and i pop and let it loose in the total wrong way. i just want to learn how to trust and also how to say "whatever its not real life" when i need to. and truly feel it and do it. any help will be appreciated. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
suegail Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 It's a good sign that you obviously see the problem. It's that smothering, possessive reaction that drove her away, and at least you understand that. Some people never understand and they keep making the same mistake. Just do keep this in mind in the future, that it is something that will destroy relationships. I think it has alot to do with confidence in yourself. You probably need to work on that. You're always expecting that something is going to go wrong, and somehow I feel it must trace back to a feeling you have about yourself, some lack of self worth. Maybe I'm wrong...I have no idea, but i would suggest...and I do... I hope you find your answers and I hope you find strength and peace of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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