ConfusedGal Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 OK, so I went to see my psychiatrist today. I kept talking about my vision and how none of my life matched my vision etc, I kept talking about how I want to move. How my husband doesnt understand all the baggage I have due to my family history...And how I want to run away. I think I hit a dead end. My therapist was like Well, we spent most of the sessions talking about your mom. Then we spent the last two focusing on your marriage and how your husband doesnt understand. I think the issue is your marriage! So I completely disagree with this...The reason I behave the way I do in my marriage is due to the issues I have had with my mom. I want to move away because I want to get AWAY from her, which in turn annoys my husband cause he thinks im being unrealistic. So I disagree the issue is with my marriage. So I talked about my vision a bit. And we hit a dead end. All she could say was, well, make it happen eventually. So thats it. It hit me. I AM IN MY SITUATION FOR AT LEAST A YEAR OR MORE. I cannot pick up my stuff and move to CA right now. I am here. Me whining and complaining and telling my husband this will only aggravate him. And it will get me nowhere. I am only making myself (and him) unhappy by telling him how I want to move. We will when we can. I need to suck it up. Because nothing will come out of my complaining. I realized that during my therapy session when she hit a dead end. If I am scared of the future, too freakin bad. If I am afraid of the reactions my mom will have, I need to deal with it the best way I can. If I am scared of my parents and inlaws fighting when my inlaws come down to visit I need to deal with it when they come down. Basically, Ineed to shut up and deal, and do things to make my life better until it is a time I can make my vision a reality. Meanwhile, there is no point complaining. I need to implement this. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 You GO, girl! We can do ANYTHING once we put our minds to it!!! Stay strong and touch base with LS whenever you need a rah rah and some support. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 Basically, Ineed to shut up and deal, and do things to make my life better until it is a time I can make my vision a reality. Meanwhile, there is no point complaining. complaining serves a purpose, but sometimes we tend to put more energy in the complaint than in finding solutions to what bothers us, and it only serves to make what bugs us even more upsetting than it truly is! this is an uplifting post, because I think now you're going to look at these situations with a different eye, and approach them in a manner that will help you get closer to the goal you want to achieve. And that's fantastic, CG!!! in the meantime, good going, girl Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 Last night, I was going through a journal I had where I wrote down a lot of little notes and phrases from self help books etc. One in particular stood out. "Insight comes quickly, but change comes slowly." It's so easy to see what we did wrong, but to actually put things into practice is really hard. I would highly recommend you to print out your post and carry it with you. Review it once in a while in the future just to put yourself back on track. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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