honest Posted November 17, 2001 Share Posted November 17, 2001 I am in a relationship with the father of my son. I am having serious problems. I was not aware of the fact that he was living home with someone who has a child for him. I found out when the woman turn up at my door. She was very courteous in the way she spoke to me. I have no problem with her, because apparently she was with him long before I met him. I tried to end the relationship, but he would not hear of it. He called the same day and move in the night. After that night he did not sleep the other night. I am in love with him, but I cannot continue to live the life he wants me to live. They are both living at his parents home. The parents is in acceptance of this girl he is living home with and refuses to have anyother woman there. I am a very honest, open minded, forgiving, understanding person. I do not know how to hate, I only know to love and appreciate everyone for who they are. I think I deserve better. I am awaiting your reply Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted November 17, 2001 Share Posted November 17, 2001 You are awaiting a reply but you have not asked a question. Furthermore, you have very well addressed your situation in your post. YOU WROTE: "I am in love with him, but I cannot continue to live the life he wants me to live." Love has absolutely nothing to do with this. This man lied to you by concealing the fact that he was living with another woman who also had a child by him. She has been with him a lot longer and she's the only one his parents will accept. So that sort of leaves you out if he's intent on living at his parents' home where rent is free or at a substantially reduced rate. You also admit you "cannot continue to live the life" he wants you to live. So what choice do you have but to cease to have anything to do with him except as it relates to the child you have together? I don't know what country you're in but take whatever measures are necessary to ensure that you receive the proper support monies for the raising of your child. The father is legally responsible for paying that in most places. I hope in the future you will get to know your men a lot better before having their children. You have learned a good lesson here and hopefully you can move on to a new, more fulfilling life either alone or perhaps at some point with an honest, responsible man who won't jerk you around. Link to post Share on other sites
witchbreed Posted November 17, 2001 Share Posted November 17, 2001 Tony has - as usual - given sound advice. Dont let this man walk all over you! If he would really love you, he would have split with the other woman, whatever his parents think. You are worthy of a man truly loving you. Link to post Share on other sites
Tippy Posted November 18, 2001 Share Posted November 18, 2001 hello, i think that something is defintely wrong with his parents, but you should be able to look over this, and trust him, i know it is hard, but if u love him enough, u will find it will be easier. I am in a relationship with the father of my son. I am having serious problems. I was not aware of the fact that he was living home with someone who has a child for him. I found out when the woman turn up at my door. She was very courteous in the way she spoke to me. I have no problem with her, because apparently she was with him long before I met him. I tried to end the relationship, but he would not hear of it. He called the same day and move in the night. After that night he did not sleep the other night. I am in love with him, but I cannot continue to live the life he wants me to live. They are both living at his parents home. The parents is in acceptance of this girl he is living home with and refuses to have anyother woman there. I am a very honest, open minded, forgiving, understanding person. I do not know how to hate, I only know to love and appreciate everyone for who they are. I think I deserve better. I am awaiting your reply Link to post Share on other sites
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