what i want and whats promised

[cinsi]

Ive been posting here for a while, and the last couple of times I thought were going to be the last for a while...but here I am with a dilemma.

 

The situation is like this-- After about 4 yrs me and my b/f ended our relationship. It is over, and we are both ok with it...it was time. The thing is that he is buying a house and until he gets it he is still living with me. We have been broken up about 6 weeks now, and living together has been fine. Since breaking up we are actually getting along better- we are friendly to each other, dont fight and he is even cleaning up after himself now. Anyway, over the past week Ive been selfish.

 

It started last Saturday when I was out with some friends and we met up with a guy that I have found attractive for several years. I have never had the opportunity to get to know this guy, Im always in a relationship when I see him so we have talked as friends but thats been it. So, I see him Saturday and took the opportunity to spend some extra time chatting with him. To make a long-ish story short, we decided to see each other again mid-week and then again last night. So here I am dating this guy and my ex has not moved out yet. Last night I stayed out with the new guy until about 5am. This morning my ex was of course suspicious, and I eventually told him that Im interested in the new guy. Obviously, my ex didnt take it very well, he is hurt by my actions. I feel like such a s***head...like I couldnt even wait 3 weeks until he moved out to start dating! Anyway, in an effort to make my ex feel better, I agreed not to go out with the new guy again until after the ex moves out. The even worse thing is that I am already planning to still see the new guy when my ex wont know about it!! I was planning on taking the day off work Wednesday to hang out w/him. My ex is going to be out of town for the holidays. So- I want hear some opinions on this. Should I keep my promise and not spend any time with the new guy until the ex moves out, or should I just do it when the ex will not know about it? The ex will be out of town for the holiday next week. Oh!!! I am feeling so bad- or like I could be bad and its hard to be good sometimes. What do you people think I should do????

[yes]

I think you should have fun n date the new guy.

 

Once u'r broken up, your ex has no say in what you're doing with your personal life.

 

Sure, don't rub it in - dont bring the new guy home until yr ex moves out and stuff... but i think going out with him is absolutely fine and none of yr ex's business.

 

Good luck!

Ive been posting here for a while, and the last couple of times I thought were going to be the last for a while...but here I am with a dilemma.

 

The situation is like this-- After about 4 yrs me and my b/f ended our relationship. It is over, and we are both ok with it...it was time. The thing is that he is buying a house and until he gets it he is still living with me. We have been broken up about 6 weeks now, and living together has been fine. Since breaking up we are actually getting along better- we are friendly to each other, dont fight and he is even cleaning up after himself now. Anyway, over the past week Ive been selfish. It started last Saturday when I was out with some friends and we met up with a guy that I have found attractive for several years. I have never had the opportunity to get to know this guy, Im always in a relationship when I see him so we have talked as friends but thats been it. So, I see him Saturday and took the opportunity to spend some extra time chatting with him. To make a long-ish story short, we decided to see each other again mid-week and then again last night. So here I am dating this guy and my ex has not moved out yet. Last night I stayed out with the new guy until about 5am. This morning my ex was of course suspicious, and I eventually told him that Im interested in the new guy. Obviously, my ex didnt take it very well, he is hurt by my actions. I feel like such a s***head...like I couldnt even wait 3 weeks until he moved out to start dating! Anyway, in an effort to make my ex feel better, I agreed not to go out with the new guy again until after the ex moves out. The even worse thing is that I am already planning to still see the new guy when my ex wont know about it!! I was planning on taking the day off work Wednesday to hang out w/him. My ex is going to be out of town for the holidays. So- I want hear some opinions on this. Should I keep my promise and not spend any time with the new guy until the ex moves out, or should I just do it when the ex will not know about it? The ex will be out of town for the holiday next week. Oh!!! I am feeling so bad- or like I could be bad and its hard to be good sometimes. What do you people think I should do????