pricillia Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 So my mm that I work with will be leaving next Friday to get another position out of the area. I am relieved and sad at the same time. He plays head games and often acts like a little boy lately in the office. I think that he has flipped his lid! For instance yesterday... He was looking a a magazine and there was a "Hot" girl in it and he was commenting on how great she looked... won't get into details. A few people walked into the office and as usual I said hi to them one of them (Male) stoped to talk to me and we were chatting and MM showed him the magazine by holding it up and tried to take his attention away from me. I sarcasticly thanked him by saying"Thanks for distracting him after all I was having a conversation with him... His reply was "Anyone would be distracted by that" he was being such a jerk yesterday it infuriated me, he was jealous by me talking to the other guy and did his best to stop the conversation and infact did. When I chat with other guys as part of office conversation he rolls his eyes. He then reminded me that he has one week left. He loves to play head games and lately he has been flirting more and more with people in the office and they are friends of mine, like he is doing it on purpose... WTF I really wanted to go over to him and strangle him., he then e-mailed me to say that he is like a nymphomaniac and he has a long list of women that he would like to F**K.. nice hugh.. any replies on how I can get through this next week without being weak would really help as I am trying to get over this person that I seem to have a really weird connection with. I just want to be some what good again. I opened myself up to him and let him get closer then anyone else in too long of a time... Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted June 24, 2006 Author Share Posted June 24, 2006 and to add he said that if the situation was different would you openly date me, I said yes and his reply was... "even though you know that I would be cheating on you left and right" Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 I really wanted to go over to him and strangle him., he then e-mailed me to say that he is like a nymphomaniac and he has a long list of women that he would like to F**K.. nice hugh.. any replies on how I can get through this next week without being weak would really help as I am trying to get over this person that I seem to have a really weird connection with. I just want to be some what good again. I opened myself up to him and let him get closer then anyone else in too long of a time... Just remember what he did to you in the office and his e-mail!! Yuck!! That word isn't even harsh enough!! Oh, and I just saw your second post!! Get away from him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 thank god this guy is leaving..he sounds desprate to get your attention and he does it like a little boy pulling your pig tails or something..ack! he's horrid. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 The guy is an a**h*** and a player. He's TOLD you who he is and what he's capable of. Why on earth would you want HIM? Even if he turns you on and makes you feel good, DO you think he would seriously "Be" there for you as a friend if you were going through something difficult in your life? This man is someone you cannot trust. Good that he's leaving! Just try your best to stay away from him all week and DON'T read your emails. Take that week to take a break from emails. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 He absolutely has NO respect for you. Read "Why Men Love Bitches". It was a recent eye opener for me!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted June 25, 2006 Author Share Posted June 25, 2006 Thanks everyone for you replies, I think all of you have good points and I will read your replys all week long to keep me focussed!!! You all have no idea how hard it is to stay focussed, well ok I take that back I am sure that you do. It will be nice not to have him there in a way so I don't have to deal with the weird attraction. Link to post Share on other sites
bunset Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 pricilla, oh he sounds like a JERK! how mean he can be. things should be so much nicer around there when he's gone. MO, hmmmm, I saw that book. Now I may get it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted June 25, 2006 Author Share Posted June 25, 2006 pricilla, oh he sounds like a JERK! how mean he can be. things should be so much nicer around there when he's gone. MO, hmmmm, I saw that book. Now I may get it. Bunset, Yes he has alot of jerk intertwined in him, I try to see through that but this past week has been an eye opener. I know that some of it he is doing just to piss me off. I did tell him that he was being mean, he said that I am mean too, as I also told him that he cares more about his own manhood then anything or anyone else. Ty for responding to my pathethic e-mail:( Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 Priscilla, my exMM use to act just as childish and he was in his 50's. I can't understand why a MM would brag about all the women they sleep with. I think it is a lie. I think he wants to seem like a player and real players don't tell anyone about how many women they bed. He's trying to be something he's not. Like saying marriage doesn't stop him from doing what he wants and acting like a 25 year old playboy. Be glad he's moving on. His poor wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted June 25, 2006 Author Share Posted June 25, 2006 Priscilla, my exMM use to act just as childish and he was in his 50's. I can't understand why a MM would brag about all the women they sleep with. I think it is a lie. I think he wants to seem like a player and real players don't tell anyone about how many women they bed. He's trying to be something he's not. Like saying marriage doesn't stop him from doing what he wants and acting like a 25 year old playboy. Be glad he's moving on. His poor wife. Yeah and Lucky me I got involved with him and the sucky part is, I have feelings for him... so confusing!!! Yes and you are right his poor wife!!! But I have been interested in someone else and haveing MM around is making things very confusing so this is for the best. I know that there is not a future with this MM at all and I know that he will probably never contact me again after he leaves. I wonder if he cares about anyone but himself, is that possible, I mean for someone to care about himself and himself only. After all he is human and he must have feelings for people that care about him, his wife included. I don't think that he really cares about the fact that he has cheated on her??? Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 Just remember what he did to you in the office and his e-mail!! Yuck!! That word isn't even harsh enough!! Oh, and I just saw your second post!! Get away from him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, I agree. Remind yourself of what an effin a*****e he is..... That should do the trick???? Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 He loves to play head games and lately he has been flirting more and more with people in the office and they are friends of mine, like he is doing it on purpose... WTF I really wanted to go over to him and strangle him., he then e-mailed me to say that he is like a nymphomaniac and he has a long list of women that he would like to F**K.. nice hugh.. any replies on how I can get through this next week without being weak would really help as I am trying to get over this person that I seem to have a really weird connection with. I just want to be some what good again. I opened myself up to him and let him get closer then anyone else in too long of a time... I think you would find it very interesting to read up on the kinds of behaviour they exhibit in order to maintain their 'NS' (Narcissistic Supply... i.e. YOU, or attention from you). My exN used to wind me up and try to incite jealousy in me by talking about 'other women' who were interested in him (HA!). They have a huge arsenal of tricks up their sleeves. Making you feel like s***e by putting you down with little comments, de-personalising you by referring to women as sex-objects, destroying things of yours... oh, the list goes on. And yes that 'weird connection'... very common feeling with them. It's all manufactured by THEM... they're adept at finding out little things about you (from other people, or by quizzing you when you're not paying attention) and making it SEEM like you and they have an amaaaaaaazing spiritual connection. And they fell 'good and hard' for you, you're the only woman who can make them feel like this blah blah blah. It's all bull. Anyway, look up the red flags for N behaviour. You could start on this site: (though I have to say that as a self-confessed N, the author is quite sickening to read, he does at least give some insight into this kind of behaviour) Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 HOLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sami, I just looked at that thread, looking for signs of exMM, seeing a couple, but slowly and surely seeing my exH to a T!!!!! The more I read, the more I see everything exH has done throughout his entire life to me, my children and his family. My stomach is sick right now!! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 HOLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sami, I just looked at that thread, looking for signs of exMM, seeing a couple, but slowly and surely seeing my exH to a T!!!!! The more I read, the more I see everything exH has done throughout his entire life to me, my children and his family. My stomach is sick right now!! And I recognise my first boyfriend.... Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 Yeah and Lucky me I got involved with him and the sucky part is, I have feelings for him... so confusing!!! Yes and you are right his poor wife!!! But I have been interested in someone else and haveing MM around is making things very confusing so this is for the best. I know that there is not a future with this MM at all and I know that he will probably never contact me again after he leaves. Don't count on that. He will still contact you because he hasn't conquered you yet. If he knows or finds out you're seeing someone else he will stop whatever he is doing to ruin it for you. I wonder if he cares about anyone but himself, is that possible, I mean for someone to care about himself and himself only. After all he is human and he must have feelings for people that care about him, his wife included. I don't think that he really cares about the fact that he has cheated on her??? You are absolutely right about this he doesn't care that he has cheated on his wife and will continue to do so. I think the people he cares the most about are his children as they are an extension of hisself. Other than that he probably never says "I love you" to anyone but the mirror. Thank goodness he's leaving but it doesn't mean he's going to leave your mind right away. Be strong and good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted July 1, 2006 Author Share Posted July 1, 2006 Thanks everyone! It is over he is gone. He left early and did not even say goodbye to anyone at all. anyway, I am somewhat releaved but sad at the same time. I will look up the N website to get a better perspective about him. He states that he still would like to see me and if that would be ok. He said bottom line it is either him or this other guy. Well I deserve much more than what he could give me. The new guy has been so different and I know that he cares and he has morals. I find my self more open with him and I can be myself as I don't have to always feel like I have to protect my feelings with him. Thanks again for all the relplys it helped. You guys are awsome! Link to post Share on other sites
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