Will she leave me?

[Andy]

My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year and half now, and everything has been wonderful. We are very much in love, and have even talked a little about our future plans. We met while away at college, and I recently graduated leaving her with a year to go. Since then we have maintained a long distance relationship and we see each other about once a month for a few days at a time. Now she says that she needs to take some time away to sort her feelings out. It seems that while away she has developed a crush on another guy, and she is scared that her feelings for him are effecting her feelings for me. Everything was great up until early this week when she dropped this bomb on me. She insists that she doesn't want to date him, or anybody else for that matter, but she just wants to take time to figure things out. I love her dearly and don't want to lose her, but should I be worried? Are her feelings for me wearing off, or is this just a phase? Any help or advice would be greatly welcomed.

[Sue]

Only your girlfriend knows what's going on in her heart. But your situation sounds similar to something I am currently going through. I am engaged and have been having doubts for awhile. I just didn't really want to face up to the doubts, but then I met someone with whom I really just connected. The fact that I felt this way, made me really figure out what my feelings were for my fiance. Was I just going with the flow of the relationship, or was I just having cold feet. Nothing has happened with the new person, and we are just friends, but that connection with him made me face up to my relationship and decide if it is the right relationship for me or not. In my case, it is not, and I am in the process of breaking up with my fiance. Your girlfriend may decide that she does want to be with you, and her doubts are related to soemthing else, but you won't know until she decides. It's nothing you can help her with or decide for her. Just give her space and time to decide. Be there for her without pressuring her. If she was able to be so honest with you, she must cares about you and trusts you a great deal. She's probably hurting a great deal as well. No one wants to face the idea of hurting a great person and losing a partner, but if the connections just isn't there, it's best for both people. I hope this helps some.

My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year and half now, and everything has been wonderful. We are very much in love, and have even talked a little about our future plans. We met while away at college, and I recently graduated leaving her with a year to go. Since then we have maintained a long distance relationship and we see each other about once a month for a few days at a time. Now she says that she needs to take some time away to sort her feelings out. It seems that while away she has developed a crush on another guy, and she is scared that her feelings for him are effecting her feelings for me. Everything was great up until early this week when she dropped this bomb on me. She insists that she doesn't want to date him, or anybody else for that matter, but she just wants to take time to figure things out. I love her dearly and don't want to lose her, but should I be worried? Are her feelings for me wearing off, or is this just a phase? Any help or advice would be greatly welcomed.