stronggirl Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 I have a question. From reading in this forum, it seems like more dumper girls try to recontact their ex's after a breakup than dumper guys. Do you think this is the case? If so, why do you think that? Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 I think in general, girls/women tend to dwell on the past a lot longer than men. We also tend to think/analyze things more than men. I'd suspect that more women would break NC (regardless of the dumper/ee status) than men, simply due to that. Unless of course she has moved on, in which case, I doubt she'd be thinking of him at all. Sigh. I know I want to contact mine. Very badly. But, I know it will do me no good...onto day 5 of no contact tomorrow. Jennifer Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 I think in general, girls/women tend to dwell on the past a lot longer than men. We also tend to think/analyze things more than men. I'd suspect that more women would break NC (regardless of the dumper/ee status) than men, simply due to that. Unless of course she has moved on, in which case, I doubt she'd be thinking of him at all. Sigh. I know I want to contact mine. Very badly. But, I know it will do me no good...onto day 5 of no contact tomorrow. Jennifer Ive heard and am experiencing the opposite. I have read a few articles where females who dump, ususally throw themself into another relationship almost immediately. Now I dont know if this is true or not, but mine did. Im almost positive of that. I also believe that we will most likely never speak of this again. I could be wrong though.... Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen_Angel Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 I definitely agree with your assessment, although I also think girls are more likely to spill their guts in this type of arena than guys are. It's in our DNA - we HAVE to overanalyze everything until there's nothing left. And we're more emotional! Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 I definitely agree with your assessment, although I also think girls are more likely to spill their guts in this type of arena than guys are. It's in our DNA - we HAVE to overanalyze everything until there's nothing left. And we're more emotional! I must have dated a weirdo then.. Seriously, My Ex offered no explanation other than, Im afraid to tell you cause it might hurt you. SO she didnt and hurt me more by leaving me confused. 2 weeks afterwards I asked for closure, her response was, Im not coming back, which is not what I was asking or wanted from her She said she would call when she could talk, then never did. We have seen eachother multiple times and ignore each other now. I wont look at her, and she wont look at me. It was a bad ending. One I felt that a little honesty on her part, could have been avoided. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 So far I have never contacted a dumped gf. If she contacts and I actually answer (she using a different number, email, etc..) I would blow her off. Regarding emails, I might actually read the subject then decide if it is worth reading or delete it. All others I delete. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stronggirl Posted June 27, 2006 Author Share Posted June 27, 2006 My Ex offered no explanation other than, Im afraid to tell you cause it might hurt you. SO she didnt and hurt me more by leaving me confused. 2 weeks afterwards I asked for closure, her response was, Im not coming back, which is not what I was asking or wanted from her She said she would call when she could talk, then never did. We have seen eachother multiple times and ignore each other now. I wont look at her, and she wont look at me. It was a bad ending. One I felt that a little honesty on her part, could have been avoided. Oh man Diver, you should be seriosuly glad to be rid of her! Why aren't you out dating yet? There are SO MANY beautiful wonderful caring women out there, pining over someone that did that to you is just really unhealthy. I think you need to get out on a date! And i think you need to start setting it up THIS WEEK! When my ex dumped me, he wanted to call me one last time, or at least offered to. My response to him what that, despite the fact that i loved him and was still in love with him, i had to do what was best for me, so i told him no, do not call me. He said he would respect what i wanted and needed. Do i wish he would call? Sort of. Do i think that feeling will last long. Not really. Because anyone that is going to dump me does not DESERVE ME! And as a matter of fact, i just set up a date with a hot tele skier on Thursday and we are going for beers and sushi! Get on it! Link to post Share on other sites
donpepot Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 when a man begs to a girl its a sure fire thing that it will not work..but if a girl begs to a guys there is a chance he can win him back...for guys sympathy to girls can lead to love..but to girls sympathy to guy is a complete turn off...you can hold back a man bcoz of logic...but you cant bring back a girl bcoz of logic and reasons... Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 Oh man Diver, you should be seriosuly glad to be rid of her! Why aren't you out dating yet? There are SO MANY beautiful wonderful caring women out there, pining over someone that did that to you is just really unhealthy. I think you need to get out on a date! And i think you need to start setting it up THIS WEEK! When my ex dumped me, he wanted to call me one last time, or at least offered to. My response to him what that, despite the fact that i loved him and was still in love with him, i had to do what was best for me, so i told him no, do not call me. He said he would respect what i wanted and needed. Do i wish he would call? Sort of. Do i think that feeling will last long. Not really. Because anyone that is going to dump me does not DESERVE ME! And as a matter of fact, i just set up a date with a hot tele skier on Thursday and we are going for beers and sushi! Get on it! hehe a few friends at work are trying to hook me up with a few women possibly. Right now im just trying to move past all this. Being broken up with in this way really shook me to the core, and I am trying to put myself back together properly. That takes some time. Although I am lonley, I am not afraid of being alone. I am having fun with friends and family.. and its all good.. When my hearts ready to love again, it will, but this time, it will be stronger, and wiser. Thanks for your response It made me smile! Link to post Share on other sites
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