What's the One Thing That would Make you Happy??

[ConfusedGal]

Since we seem to be posting a lot about this topic, what's the one thing you just think if you had would make you happy (happier)??? For me, well, I am 27. I have a nice husband. Good job (I dont love the job but the money is greta. I am an attorney). Financial Stability. I'm pretty attractive...So I have those things...

 

Bad things. Bad relations with my mother who lives close by. Makes my life hell. What would make me happy is to move really far away from her. I feel like I cannot really "live" until I am far away from her. Keeps me from enjoying all the good things in my life.

 

What about you guys?? What is that one thing??

[dgiirl]

Since I'm going through a breakup, i'd say to find love that works. I'm pretty lucky with everything else in my life. I've got a job, friends, family. And although there's always room for improvement, i'm pretty lucky to have what i do have.

[thegoodhubbie]

I have been thinking about this since the question was first posted, and I think happiness is over-rated. It is fleeting and ephemeral. I literally have everything I ever wanted in life: A good and loving wife, with whom I share a pretty good sex life, two intelligent, funloving children that I am proud of, a decent job that provides enough, a nice house, etc. I honestly can't think of any outsidething that would make me happier, or even happy for that matter because, in spite of all that I have, I am really not that happy. More money would certainly make life easier, but I don't think it would make me happier. Honestly don't know what would make me happy/ier

[Outcast]

I don't have most of the things I wanted in life but I'm plenty happy. There's reasons every minute to be happy. My delicious cup of coffee is making me happy.

 

I think the very thing that keeps people from being happy is having a checklist of things they 'must' have in order to be happy. It's a waste of your life to constantly pine after things you don't have and may never have. If you just look, you can find a dozen reasons every day to be happy.

 

People say that 'gratitude journals' help their levels of happiness. At the end of every day, write down ten things you're thankful for. Once you turn your focus to the good things in your life rather than to what you don't have, your happiness levels will increase.

[dgiirl]

People say that 'gratitude journals' help their levels of happiness. At the end of every day, write down ten things you're thankful for. Once you turn your focus to the good things in your life rather than to what you don't have, your happiness levels will increase.

 

This is very true and helped me tremendously during the initial phases of my divorce. If i didnt have that, I dont know where'd I'd be today. Although I've stopped a while ago. Maybe i should start again.

[The slayer]

I agree totally with Outcast.

 

There isn't ever going to be that one thing or even combination of things that will make you "happy"

 

Ironically, the one thing that will probably make you most unhappy is the pursuit of the one thing or things that will make you happy.

 

Happiness is a state of mind that only you yourself can be responsable for.

 

The reason it eludes us so often is we don't really know what it is. It's probably be best described as not being unhappy.

 

The thing that we maybe are searching for when we talk about happiness is really joy.

 

Moments of joy are precisely that, they are moments.

 

Therefore maybe learning to recognise, appreciate and truly enjoy those moments of joy, when we find them in everyday life is the one thing that can make you happy.

 

If you want one thing.....what always works for me is the kindness of strangers, however minimal. You can always find that, if you are open to seeing it, however unhappy you feel at the time.

[Brittanyjean06]

I am going through a break up to, It's been a year though So Im allright to this day.

 

Seeing my parents happy would make me happy, not being nervous to find new jobs would make me happy, Not letting the little stuff get in the way and to stop worrying.

 

To be a good driver would make me happy haha

 

Not to let lust feel like love and to look beyond that ( in my next relationship)

 

Just in all to be a stronger person

[ConfusedGal]

I am wondering what happiness is...I know one thing. I dont feel like I have ever been happy. Moments that should have been good have always been tainted... My wedding, honeymoon, graduation, etc have always been tainted by my parents. I have never had true happiness...The kind where I can just "breathe" and look around and be like "Yes, I am happy." Really, I dont feel like I have...Kind of my reason for wanting to get away. I think that would give me happiness...

[2sunny]

I am happy, I don't depend on "things" for my happiness.....

[Pyro]

I am already happy, but I can tell you a few things that I would like to happen that would make me even happier.

 

If gas prices were to go down

If our troops were pulled out of Iraq and Afghanistan

If my state banned smoking in all or at least most public places

If everyone were to stop making lame excuses and just take responsibilities for their actions.

[whichwayisup]

I don't have most of the things I wanted in life but I'm plenty happy. There's reasons every minute to be happy. My delicious cup of coffee is making me happy.

 

I think the very thing that keeps people from being happy is having a checklist of things they 'must' have in order to be happy. It's a waste of your life to constantly pine after things you don't have and may never have. If you just look, you can find a dozen reasons every day to be happy.

 

People say that 'gratitude journals' help their levels of happiness. At the end of every day, write down ten things you're thankful for. Once you turn your focus to the good things in your life rather than to what you don't have, your happiness levels will increase.

 

Wonderful post Outcast. I agree with you.

 

Because I have an anxiety disorder, I've learned to appreciate the little things in life that mean so much. Instead of worrying and wondering what my future holds (in the sense when I'm back in the work force again and what kind of job I'll end up at) I do my best to focus on my family, friends and making myself happy with what I have right now IN my life.

 

I know that cup of coffee can put a smile on one's face. For me, it's when I'm BBQ'ing! I get really happy and know how amazing my burgers will taste once done.

 

What is that one thing??

 

I have more than one, but the most important is getting rid of this anxiety disorder I have so I can live my life like I used to. Without fears controlling me...

[basscatcher]

compatable/balanced/healthy partner.

[hotgurl]

All this talk about happiness makes me think about a book I used to read to my daughter called happiness is a warm puppy.

 

It used the peanuts characters but it was all about the little things that made the kids happy. sunshine, a blanket, friends etc.. And really that what happiness is.

 

I am happy. Two things that would make me happier is to find a more challenging & better paying job and to have my BF marry me. And to have my health problems go away (yea right!)

 

Confusedgal if you put conditions on your happiness you will never be happy. I have read all you posts almost everything you have done in your life have been because of or in spite of your parents. you went into law because your mom wanted you to you want to move to get away from your mom. But what do you want? That is seperate from your parents.

moving away isn't going to make you happy your mom can always call you and guilt trip you.

[ConfusedGal]

What do I want?? Well, as silly as it sounds AGAIN, I want to move away and have a fresh start in my life in a new place, where I dont know anyone, I can attempt to forget the past, and I can reinvent myself. That is what I want. Sometimes you really need distance from that person in your life that annoys the crap out of you. I need PHYSICAL distance from that person, not only emotional. I dont TRY to put conditions on my happiness...I just cant help the way I feel. I feel like I just cannot be happy with my current circumstances. But again, I am TRYING. I am seeking therapy and trying to understand how to get a better grip on myself and my life...

[j.carsey]

What would make me happier...

 

Achieving something meaningful, like in my business realm

 

Sleeping with interesting women, and more of them. Have had few partners at my age and feel unsatisfied. Yeah you heard me, want sex.

 

Getting to sleep at more routine hours so I am well rested. In my experience good sleep is one of the key ingredients to happiness!

[burning 4 revenge]

to wake up next to a gorgeous woman and then realize it is me looking at myself in the mirror

[Pink Amulet]

To be reporting in Iraq.

[magichands]

Hmmm... my ex back. But that's pretty unfair seeing that she doesn't want me! So what would make me happy is a "real life" replay of our short time together.

[Pink Amulet]

You mention her a bit... how long has it been?

[lovestruck234]

There are quite alot of things that I wish I could have for me to be happy but the very first thing that springs to my mind is my mum.

 

She has been sick since she was 17 with a disease called Chron's disease ( I think that's how you spell it), it's a bowel disease.

 

Everyday she wakes up in pain and is now down to a mere 27kg cos she's lost her appetite due to the illness. She is waking up 10 or more times during the night from the pain and she has cried every day of her life for 3 yrs. Cos 3 yrs ago it got really bad and she had to go to hospital for, like, 3 months and they nearly overdosed her and she was close to dying.

 

I wish someone could come and take all her pain away, cos the day I see her free of illness (which will never happen), but it will be the day that I know I am genuinely happy.

 

I reckon people don't appreciate they're health until something happens and it hits close to home. I now realise just how lucky I am.

[Pink Amulet]

I wish her pain would go away too lovestruck. I am so sorry to hear of this.

 

P.S this is why I refuse to feel sorry for myself.

[Joelle]

Honestly, I don't consider myself happy. I consider myself Content. I have peace of mind and peace of heart. I don't have everything I want out of Life yet, but when I do, it will be icing on the cake, not be the entire dessert. I already possess a sense of well-being.

[pearlsasinger]

To stop spending so much time and energy dwelling on the past and criticizing myself for every mistake I ever made or every flaw I ever possessed. I think I would be happy if I could reach a level of acceptance with these things and acceptance with myself.

[ConfusedGal]

Pearlsinger. Thats a good one. I wish I could do that!

[a4a]

I have always wanted to write my name in the snow in yellow letters from a stationary position.