Guest Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 Hey you guys! My boyfriend and I recently (about two months ago) separated because he had been acting really depressed and didn't have much to do with anyone anymore. He acted like a totally different person after almost a year together. He said he needed space and no relationship for a while. Well, I love him very much and I decided that it was best to be patient and give him his space, no questions asked. So...I don't call or talk to him and he begins to initiate contact with me. He recently text messaged me while I was on vacation and said that he hoped I was having a wonderful time and saying how he had not talked to me in ages, obviously meaning that he has missed me. He has said how he wants to rebuild our relationship so he can date me again. He also said in the text message "don't be afraid to call :)". Well, what in the world?? He asked for space but from the way that sounds....he seems to be confused as to why I haven't called him. He also sent me another text message and wrote on it "love _____" I am really happy to see this, but could it be that he is slowly trying to win back my heart? Could he actually be serious about wanting to get back together with me? I just wanted to see if you all had an opinion or advice on this. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 but could it be that he is slowly trying to win back my heart? Could he actually be serious about wanting to get back together with me? I just wanted to see if you all had an opinion or advice on this. Thanks! Seems to be a stupid question, as from what you have said, it looks obvious he is trying....you know him, much better than anyone else, why would you doubt him from these actions and gestures? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 Seems to be a stupid question, as from what you have said, it looks obvious he is trying....you know him, much better than anyone else, why would you doubt him from these actions and gestures? I know...you are right, it does seem like a stupid question. I am just having a hard time accepting this. I am really hurt by the break up and I am just in shock that he wants to fix everything. I really don't know why I am doubting him. I love him very much and we had a wonderful relationship. I just hope that this isn't too good to be true. Link to post Share on other sites
MacGyver Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 It sounds like he misses you and has been thinking of you. If you love him so much then i dont see the problem here. The signals are there, act on them if you want to. Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 I would want to know what caused the depression in teh first place... Thats just a little to weird for me to go unanswered. What did he resolve while you were apart to help him get over it would be my next question... just my 2 cents.. Link to post Share on other sites
copper Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 Yes, I second the above sentiments. Something will have to have changed for you to rebuild your relationship and not have it end up the same way again. And again and again. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 I would want to know what caused the depression in teh first place... Thats just a little to weird for me to go unanswered. What did he resolve while you were apart to help him get over it would be my next question... just my 2 cents.. To tell you the truth I don't know what caused the depression. All I know is that my boyfriend began to change significantly and not just around me. It was around everyone. He just seems so distant. I believe he is trying to fix things, but I still feel really empty inside. I miss him and love him so much. I know that he has never been one to have many friends and this year he actually got a lot of new friends. He says he is having a hard time trying to balance everything. He says he is working on it. It is confirmed that he wants to fix everything and get back together. He wants our relationship to be wonderful like it used to be. I know you can't go back, but we are trying to move forward. Before all of this mess started, I had begun to question his love for me. I asked him if he seriously loved me like he claimed he did and he said that he really did. He seemed to be really hurt by my questioning too. I think he had even started crying on the phone. He began to think he had hurt me badly. All of this and his depression led to the break up. He said he felt like he could just crawl in a hole away from everyone and that no one understood how he felt. He said that he hadn't been talking to me because he was afraid that he was going to hurt me even more than he already had. I tried to tell him that I was okay and that he was the light of my life. He just seems really mixed up right now and had been questioning himself. At least he is calling me and wanting to talk to me now. He told me not to be afraid to call. I know a relationship is a two way street, but I don't want to "invade" on his space that he needs right now. Any advice about what I should do about contact? I believe we will get back together, but I am not sure about what to do with the contact part. Link to post Share on other sites
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