debbiB Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 Well here it is almost a week later after the black eye and I am dealing with so many things...my kids; each one feels differently about me leaving their dad...and they all want to offer advice and I am starting to feel alot of anger and I am like; where is this coming from...have I kept the anger inside and now it is coming out and I don't want anyone to be disrespectful to me.... I am not even sure who I am... I have so many things to think of and try to do....I hope I am strong enough for all of this because I have to be....thank all of you who have responded...you have been a strength to me; much more that you could know.... Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 This may well be anger that you have stuffed away, held inside for a long time. For me, it was a little surprising, mystifying, and even a little scary when some of mine started to pop out... On one hand, recognizing it can be a source of strength, and releasing it - in a healthy and safe way - will ultimately be a part of your healing, but of course, you have to be careful not to go to extremes, not to let it control you or drive you to unwise behaviors. Feel it, accept it, recognize it, and use it to give you strength, but be careful how you act on it, and don't let it take you over. It's real, and you don't have to keep stuffing it inside and pretending to make it disappear - you can own it, control it, deal with it, and eventually release it, without becoming a bitter, angry person yourself. If you have any possibility of talking with a counselor, therapist, etc... I would encourage you to do that. I hope I am strong enough for all of this because I have to be And sometimes that's just enough to get you over the hump... How old are your kids? Link to post Share on other sites
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