the observer Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 ok guys here is the deal...my gf dump me and pursue relationship for another guy..well like many tread starters here...ive been a good bf to her..... its been almost a month since we last see each other the last dramatic moment that happened to us and our last meeting is that she said that she still very much inlove with me and she is crying and we kiss so pationately so i thought this will be the time atlast we can get back togeteher again but when i said that i love her too and show to her that i still welcome her with open arms she suddenly change her attitude ..so i push to get us back togetehr and she pulls even more....she said the relationship is too late to be revive because i myt not forgive her or anything and never forget all the things that shed done...i did nc for almost 2 weeks..its been o month since we last met and its been 2 weeks sonce we spoke....and one day when i log in to my ym ,she is there..at first i ignore here..then she suddenly im me..asking how i am..ive been polite and all..try to avoid the break up matters deep relationship talk and try to push the coneversation to other things like the dogs that i give to her or about work and stuff...and she suddenly ask if i have som1 new..i said lets not talk about those kind of stuff.. HER:what is wrong its not a bad thing to talk about it. ME:there is no such thing as bad to talk about.. (suddenly my boss calls me so i have to say bye) ME:ey got to go my boss is calling me ME:TAKE CARE HER:take care too HER:I miss you soooooooooo much (i log off,but i dont think she received the message that i log off so she continue typing...and her last message became offline messages) HER:I feel so ashamed to what ive done to you... So i just want to ask what is in her mind right now?.. is she thinking to getting back again? or she miss me and starting to see my value and want us to get back togeether but still doubtful to me because it might gamble her new realtionship to that guy when she is unsure to me? IS SHE CONFUCED? i hope girls can reflect on this and translate to me what is she thinking and going through right now... if youll ask me...i will definetly forget anything i love this girl so damn much...and when she left me i realized this love feeling that is more stronger than before... thank you very much...to you time Link to post Share on other sites
rkman Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 All I have to say, is that if you do decide to take her back, have her wait at least 1-2 months. What has happened is that she is waking up to the Java Beans, but you're still healing. You need to heal before you can persue anything with her again, or you will hold it against her. If she truly feels taht way, she will have no problem waiting for you. And you should tell ehr that she SHOULD feel like s*** for her stupidity. Remember, seperate your feelings from what you know to be the correct course of action. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 send flowers ASAP. Link to post Share on other sites
whir Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 send flowers ASAP.are you crazy?he will push her away Link to post Share on other sites
thekhris Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 lolz...yup absolutely Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Look who cares what she is thinking Be nice when she talks to you, dont elude to how you are feeling just change the question. This drives women mental. Figure out a way to segue way into going out for food or a movie.. Ex: hey are you going to see SUPERMAN? her: I was thinking about it.. You: why dont you grab us some tickets? whatever im sure you know how tp ask her out. Dont say anything let her show her cards.. if she asks.. 1) do you love me still-- A: I care about you 2) Do you want to get back with me A; Im not sure right now etc etc if you can get her back to your place and bang her brains out you have probably got her back. Ive actually used this before to get back with someone. And it worked.. Link to post Share on other sites
whir Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Look who cares what she is thinking Be nice when she talks to you, dont elude to how you are feeling just change the question. This drives women mental. Figure out a way to segue way into going out for food or a movie.. Ex: hey are you going to see SUPERMAN? her: I was thinking about it.. You: why dont you grab us some tickets? whatever im sure you know how tp ask her out. Dont say anything let her show her cards.. if she asks.. 1) do you love me still-- A: I care about you 2) Do you want to get back with me A; Im not sure right now etc etc if you can get her back to your place and bang her brains out you have probably got her back. Ive actually used this before to get back with someone. And it worked..sir so what should i do?are you saying that i should stop the nc and contact her..bcoz its been 10 days since that chat... Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted July 1, 2006 Share Posted July 1, 2006 You can contact her if 1) you have an excuse.. -such as leaving something at her place -pretend you saw her number -be creative think of an excuse 2) Once a week is ok. Or you just wait for her call. She did say she missed you, chances are thats a good sign to call. Another option is to show up somewhere that you know she is going to be, make sure you can make it look coincidental. Link to post Share on other sites
thekhris Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 You can contact her if 1) you have an excuse.. -such as leaving something at her place -pretend you saw her number -be creative think of an excuse 2) Once a week is ok. Or you just wait for her call. She did say she missed you, chances are thats a good sign to call. Another option is to show up somewhere that you know she is going to be, make sure you can make it look coincidental. dr stragelove nail it..good advice Link to post Share on other sites
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