Sami_D Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 I suggest you go read forum rules then. If you start alienating some, most of your replies will be deleted. You've been gone a while and things have changed abit around here. The fighting and finger pointing, causing hurt feelings and people reacting even more is less and less...The mods are keeping an eye on stuff like this. It all comes down to now, if one doesn't like someone or doesn't like what someone has posted, USE the alert key OR don't comment on that particular thread... I don't mean to make matters worse here, but I still don't think anybody has the right to tell someone NOT to post in this section because they feel what happened isn't significant enough to be worthy of advice. That's just unfair to the OP and to anybody else in the future who wants to share their story or ask for help... Then why didn't you just use the 'alert' button..? Link to post Share on other sites
No Stress Lady Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 s***- He just sent me an sms and said he needs to see me and is coming to my house. For gods sake. I just ended one episode of bulls*** drama in my life. I don't need this. I told him to stay away and go home to his wife. He said he just needs to see me face to face to talk about it and apologise and then he will leave me alone. s***- I know if I see him, I will want him... LOL - Soooooo - quit the drama and tell him to get lost. If this is only the second guy you've been with you need to get out and find some single ones before hooking with some married sleazeball who didn't even have the balls to tell you he was married before you slept with him!!!!!!!!!!!! Just read the rest of the thread (doh) and he sounds awful - particularly targeting you when you were vulnerable. What a creep. Good luck with finding a decent guy!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
MarnieGirl Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 even if unknowing, she was "an other woman" in that she slept with someone else's husband. just because she isn't "the other woman, the oh-so-established mistress , doesn't mean she wasn't in that situation. she's looking for advice on her personal situation as she sees it; if you don't like where she posted her questions, don't offer any. Link to post Share on other sites
scrybe74 Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 First of all....it's nice that you are starting to understand what those in the mm/mw section are going through. Though to be fair you never knowingly went into it. You see now that not everything in life is so black and white. That being said I'm not a cheater not do I support the idea of cheating on someone. A commitment is a commitment and a promise is a promise. But I think you aren't the one who's guilty. You're single and unattached. He's the idiot that's stepping out on his wife/family. It's okay that you have this feeling insided you. My advice? Enjoy the thrill and the feeling and then let some common sense sink in. You sound like a decent person who wouldn't want to hurt anyone. You also seem to respect Karma. You didn't ask for this and so now is your chance to walk away and not participate in the certain destruction of this man's marriage and family. Let him do it with someone else. He doesn't deserve you. He has nothing to offer you except for a thrill ride and the last time I checked you were looking for a real man. Not a liar and a thief. Yes...a thief. He stole something from you when he slept with you. He stole the fact that you refused to sleep with a married man for your own precious reasons. You can never say that again. But at least you can say you've never KNOWINGLY slept with a married man. There's still time to keep that. He betrayed your trust and will again. Any relationship begun with lies isn't worth keeping. You can do this Pink! Walk no...run away! Link to post Share on other sites
bunset Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 PA had a dilemma..... she came here for support, one way or another. Yes, I believe that there could've been a reply or two that said.... "Good for you! Go for it, now get him to be your sugar-daddy" or even "Oh, my! you should jump right up and find his BS and tell her right away so he'll never do that again" I think she was hurt and even victimized by the MM. Not all of us can say that about our own situation, truthfully. but one good thing, he told her right away... and didn't try to continue the deceit. Second, she made the smart choice to let him know that it is NOT OK and she's made it clear to him to go away. Some of us can learn, and some of us can give her support. Link to post Share on other sites
scrybe74 Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 Ooops...I just read the rest of the thread. You did run away....after a good slap too! Good girl! c'ya! :-) Link to post Share on other sites
ahotmess Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 What an awesome "girl power" story! I mean...you totally did the right thing! If only we had all done the same. Now is such a critical time. Pink, you have to stay away. Exposure = Heartache. And it really can't be "just sex". So don't let him try that line with you either...I'm sure he probably will. As much as I love MM with every fiber of my being. I would do anything to never have met him. This is the worst pain of my entire life. And all the worse is it was self-induced. I don't wish this pain on anyone. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 28, 2006 Author Share Posted June 28, 2006 Thank you everyone. I have learnt a lot, and the feeling I had that I may want to start something was quickly distinguished by you all. Thanks once again. Good luck to you on your road to a happier place. Link to post Share on other sites
j.carsey Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 He said "I am so sorry- I just couldn't resist you" I just raised my eyebrow... He said "I should have known your morals would be too high to make me a trully happy man and let me make love to you when ever you wanted it" He's just using canned lines on you, this is pretty classic stuff. Manipulative guys know what lines to use to butter up women. The goal is just sleeping with you again, future plans don't enter the equation trust me You girls and your fantasies lol so many of my female friends have been seduced by older/married men, even when they were in their teens. Link to post Share on other sites
MarnieGirl Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 He's just using canned lines on you, this is pretty classic stuff. Manipulative guys know what lines to use to butter up women. The goal is just sleeping with you again, future plans don't enter the equation trust me You girls and your fantasies lol so many of my female friends have been seduced by older/married men, even when they were in their teens. yikes. not all of "us girls". i think i would laugh if someone said something that came right outta the cheese factory. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 28, 2006 Author Share Posted June 28, 2006 Some would laugh. I chose to slap him for thinking I would fall for such a line... he did know me better than that. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 It's amazing that cops are the biggest dogs!!! Especially in my city. You definitely are lucky you found out now that he's married. He probably has lot's of other women on the side. He's so tacky he has to do it in his car. How old is this guy anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 28, 2006 Author Share Posted June 28, 2006 28- I wouldn't be surprised if he did actually. He is probably the most stunningly handsome man I have ever seen in my life to be honest. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 And he knows it and tells every second girl he meets that he 'just can't resist her'. Sorry, Pink, but I'm glad you ditched the twit. Link to post Share on other sites
Milf629 Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 you know you did the right thing. but I HAVE to tell you I read this yesterday and thought "wow what a hot story" (sort of thought I was reading porn) minus the him being married part! So store it away and use it on those lonely nights. mmmm mmmm mmmm. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 28, 2006 Author Share Posted June 28, 2006 It's already locked and sealed in my 'wank bank' as they call it. ...and yes outcast. I am sure of this. It is sort of hurtful to think of myself as just one in a long line of conquests however. Oh well. Hopefully the next guy will be more deserving of my attentions. So far, not impressed with this male species!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 It's always surprised me that women (and even more so really attractive women) are flattered by a man's sexual interest in them. We know that guys are victims of testosterone - so many of them say they're horny much of the time. So that one is hot for you is yawn information to me. Of COURSE they are. Sure, you might not be to everybody's taste, but few women can find zero men who would sleep with them so some guy telling me he'd like to sleep with me is no big compliment to me. It's even less so in the case of a man who's had many partners! In fact, I've never worked on making myself look 'hot' (that doesn't mean I don't dress nicely or wear makeup; it means I don't do cleavage, real 'hot' clothes, etc.) because the last thing I want is some guy who's fooled by lust into thinking he's falling for me. I want the brain first and then I'll be glad to have the body. I think too many of us females get ourselves into unhappy situations by doing it the other way around. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 28- I wouldn't be surprised if he did actually. He is probably the most stunningly handsome man I have ever seen in my life to be honest. I figured he was. In L.A. it is practically a prerequiste that you are stunningly handsome to be a cop or a fireman. They are gorgeous here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 28, 2006 Author Share Posted June 28, 2006 It's always surprised me that women (and even more so really attractive women) are flattered by a man's sexual interest in them. We know that guys are victims of testosterone - so many of them say they're horny much of the time. So that one is hot for you is yawn information to me. Of COURSE they are. Sure, you might not be to everybody's taste, but few women can find zero men who would sleep with them so some guy telling me he'd like to sleep with me is no big compliment to me. It's even less so in the case of a man who's had many partners! In fact, I've never worked on making myself look 'hot' (that doesn't mean I don't dress nicely or wear makeup; it means I don't do cleavage, real 'hot' clothes, etc.) because the last thing I want is some guy who's fooled by lust into thinking he's falling for me. I want the brain first and then I'll be glad to have the body. I think too many of us females get ourselves into unhappy situations by doing it the other way around. I will say for myself- that although I did model, and quite provacatively at many stages... I do not do cleavage etc. In fact. I am known to strap mine down with masking tape. I will also say that he was attracted to me when I had two teeth missing (the night of my assault).... so there was never an agenda on my behalf. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 I've never worked on making myself look 'hot' (that doesn't mean I don't dress nicely or wear makeup; it means I don't do cleavage, real 'hot' clothes, etc.) because the last thing I want is some guy who's fooled by lust into thinking he's falling for me. I want the brain first and then I'll be glad to have the body. I think too many of us females get ourselves into unhappy situations by doing it the other way around. Some women look hot with no make-up, a turtleneck, jeans and sneakers. They can't help it. We have to be honest, most people (not just men) are initially attracted to how a person looks first and that makes them want to know more about their personality. I think you are one of the lucky ones if you could care less about looks over brains. The field for available men must be wide open for you if you view it that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 I will say for myself- that although I did model, and quite provacatively at many stages... I do not do cleavage etc. In fact. I am known to strap mine down with masking tape. I will also say that he was attracted to me when I had two teeth missing (the night of my assault).... so there was never an agenda on my behalf. Girl are you kidding? Strap em down with tape!? You love men looking at em, you said so yourself! There's nothing wrong with a little cleavage! You got it and wanna flaunt it so be it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 28, 2006 Author Share Posted June 28, 2006 Girl are you kidding? Strap em down with tape!? You love men looking at em, you said so yourself! There's nothing wrong with a little cleavage! You got it and wanna flaunt it so be it! Okay- I only strap them down with tape when I climb I do love men looking at them when they are trying to talk to me, it is a cute flaw in males I just adore. I wear bras to minimise my breasts because it makes me feel slimmer. Link to post Share on other sites
hulali Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 I haven't read the other posts so if this is a repeat answer, I apologize. First off the dude started your relationship with deceit. If he hadn't lied and slept with you, I guarantee it would have been some other unsuspecting soul(you probably aren't the first). Personally the lying part is a huge deal breaker for me. So what if the sex was mind blowing, the sleaze is married. He's cheating and if you continue to see him, then you're just as guilty as he is. Tell him to leave you alone or you'll tell his *WIFE. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 28, 2006 Author Share Posted June 28, 2006 already did. Thank you anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
hulali Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 Yay, good for you girl. There are so many worthy guys out there for you Link to post Share on other sites
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