longlegzs80 Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 I've always been a loner, quite with some friends etc. But I was wondering, why do I always get laughed at by people, well I should say the supposed "cool people"? People at work laugh at me when they are around people or in a group. I don't think I am unattractive, or should be made fun of. But my question is, what makes someone want to make fun of someone else? I never understood that because I don't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
HeyYouGuys Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 Longlegz Sometimes people tease each other and its meant to make you feel included, not ostracized. Are you certain the teasing or 'laughing at' is mean spirited? Do you have trouble reading social cues? I'd think about that and consider whether you are being over-sensitive or mis-reading how people actually perceive you. If you are CERTAIN that they are doing this to make fun of you, or being mean-spirited, I'd try to seek out the people you do consider trustworthy and ask for their opinion. Ask them what it is about you that makes you a target. Mean-spirited people usually seek out those with poor self esteem or lack of confidence to torture. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 long with what HYG said, people sometimes make fun of others they envy or don't understand because that's threatening to them. Perhaps there are qualities about you they'd love to have but don't have the first idea about how to achieve them. Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 Hey! I can identify. For 3 years I felt like I was the honorary "joker" at work. Except, I wasn't doing anything that should make someone laugh. I think part of it comes from being less open and communicative then the people who are making the jokes. Drives people to draw attention to themselves, to push your buttons in order to get a response, just so you'll acknolwedge them. Then again... it might be that their just spiteful and mean. Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 I tease people when I like them. I call my best friend "filthy slore" a lot (because he is). Link to post Share on other sites
MarnieGirl Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 i do that too.* it's not fun to be laughed at, but maybe you can get in on it somehow. they are less likely to laugh at you when they're laughing with you, i would think. *not the filthy slore part. Link to post Share on other sites
HeyYouGuys Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 See me and my best girlfriend, when we worked together, we joked and teased constantly. It was meant all in good fun and we never intended to ostracize anyone or make them feel low. We realized at some point that we had offended this one guy. He was from a different ethnic background and had misinterpreted our joking around. He was so hurt, he just got all quiet and we had no IDEA why he was mad at us. We felt terrible when we realized he had thought we were making fun of him. So try seeing how these people act with each other as well as how they behave towards you. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarplum Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 If someone laughs at you, it makes them feel better about themselves, as they are the "laugher" and not the "laughee". People who laugh at others in that way do it because they are insecure with themselves. Or no one ever taught them not to - so they are just ignorant. Link to post Share on other sites
eyeswideshut Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 oh God sugarplum that avatar is the cutest!!!!!!!!!! Longlegz, don't worry, some people TRY to laugh at me all the time, but those who do it have boring lives anyway, so it doesn't bother me. What do they pick on? Do they pick on your qualities? Some at work were saying i must be obsessed with my hair. (in reality, it's naturally curly, and i hardly spend any time on it, it's really wash and go.) One person said: do you go to the salon every morning? Yeah right. Like i have time. I really don't care much about these things. I said: no. She said: how long did it take for you to fix it? I said: I just slept with wet hair. And she said: Yeah right, you just wake up looking like this. RIGHT. just enough sarcasm to try to ruin my day and diminish me as a person. F*** that. I just took it as a compliment. she likes my hair. point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 29, 2006 Author Share Posted June 29, 2006 It seems like these people at work laugh when I walk by. And of course they are in their little click group. It does bother me and doesn't. Some days I just go about my business not being bothered by it, some days it gets to me. I know there is nothing wrong with me and I should just over look it, but sometimes when I have a bad day it gets to me. I know I am a very insecure person, but I would never make fun of others to make myself feel better. Thats twisted. Thanks for all the responses. I will continue to do my thing and not be bothered. Link to post Share on other sites
MarnieGirl Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Thanks for all the responses. I will continue to do my thing and not be bothered. well, now, you shouldn't just let it go. maybe you can try to find out what's going on. they may not be laughing at you or trying to make you uncomfortable, but if they are, you have a right to know and a right to put a stop to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted June 29, 2006 Author Share Posted June 29, 2006 oh I agree with you. But I feel as if I can't be bothered by people like that. Its like don't waste my time. Link to post Share on other sites
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