Guys and returning calls

[j.carsey]

I know there are a lot of women, young and old, who worry because they give out a phone / email and are waiting to hear from an interested guy, but aren't hearing back, or are waiting to hear a follow up after meeting up.

 

Just thought I'd remind you of something, so you can invoke that female empathy and try to understand what guys have to deal with. Men deal with TONS of rejection over the years. When meeting new people, I have grown accustomed to being shut down (maybe email or phone calls being ignored). Of course hardly anybody has the guts to just tell me to "stop contacting me" (I wish they would say that and save me time) ... as a result, I just give up if there is no reply after a while. This is to avoid harassing them.

 

For example, I met a woman a couple weekends ago. I called her around last weekend and she had prior engagements of travel, so we couldn't meet up. Later in the week I left a phone message, no reply. Now it is POSSIBLE she has just been very busy, but I read this as a sign I should stop contacting her. Deleted her number from my cell, and say too bad.

 

So if you just happen to be away, or busy at the time, and the guy runs into this kind of stuff he may well take it for rejection, and that's OK, like I say we get rejected all the time. May I suggest however, straightforward rejections to not waste the man's time.

 

Ladies -- sometimes when you think a guy has given up on you, indeed he may have, but perhaps because there was a communication failure or it appeared you weren't answering his calls. In which case, you MUST try to contact him or you're going to never see him again.

 

Because otherwise, he's gonna forget about you and just go try someone else. Myself, I eat rejection for breakfast, and I'm not going to waste time unless someone makes an effort to call me back.