burtjr Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 MY WIFE LEFT ME 4 MONTHS AGO AND NOW SHE IS READY TO COME HOME IF I WILL RESPECT HER, WHICH I WILL AND BE A BETTER MAN,WHICH I WILL, HOWEVER SHE IS NOT PERPECT EITHER AND I AM NOT SURE WHAT SHE BRING INTO THE RELATIONSHP. WE HAD NO SEX LIFE AND HAD PROBLEMS WORKING WITH ME IN MY BUSINESS EVEN THOUGHT SHE IS AT ANOTHER LOCATION, SHE THINKS I AM TOO FRIENDLY WITH MY EMPLOYEES. WE ARE TO GO TO THE BEACH FOR A WEEK, NEXT WEEK TO SEE HOW THINGS GO. MY QUESTION IS, HOW DO I KEEP FROM FEELING LIKE I AM ON TRAIL AND WHAT SHOULD I DO THAT WEEK TO DECIDE IF WE SHOULD BE TOGETHER WHEN WE COME BACK, I HAVE GOTTEN USE TO LIVING ALONE AND I AM AFRAID.HELP! Link to post Share on other sites
mountain mover Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 Be yourself. Remember the best behavior, is to learn from past behavior. YOU can only better who YOU are. Be positive, be honest, if something feels awkward, tell her. examp:, "I am sorry, if i am acting ........, I am a little tense, afraid, or not sure how I should act, etc." Women love dialogue and to know true feelings, and not macho stuff. I think that if you dont get pre-conceived, concepts in your head, everything will be fine. YOU guys are married!!!!! It is for better or worse. Link to post Share on other sites
rugbyrob1990 Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Good for you, consider it a big time second chance...Unless you enjoyed the time apart but I have a feeling you missed her! Your lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Hermione Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Take it slow! Obviously both of you would like for the relationship to work but you haven't really gone over why it didn't in the first place! If you don't fix the problems you had before and just sweep them under rug, acting like they don't exist, they'll just pop up again, and most likely more severely. And you are very lucky to have a second chance...but that doesn't mean you'll get a third. Take it slow, make sure to communicate with each other, and good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Take it slow and GO to marriage counselling. If you love your wife and she loves you, then you both owe it to eachother to give it your best. Atleast if it doesn't work out, there will be no regrets or looking back saying "If only we'd tried harder, or I wish we'd gone to marriage counselling..." Link to post Share on other sites
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