Should I Take A Step Back???

[Kanejd]

Some advice would be much appreciated!

 

I started hanging out with a girl I had known for a few months. She's friends with my best friend. When I realized she was interested in me, she was just getting out of a short term dating situation where the guy (a friend of mine) really messed with her head (I had told my friend I was dating this girl and he didn't object). When we decided to hang out, she said she just wanted to go slow because she was still feeling hurt. We hung out three times in two weeks. Things went well and we have a lot in common. Two weeks ago I took her out for my friends birthday. Since then, we've been together every night. We're not gong too fast because we're not talking about relationship or commitment yet. She is not dating anyone else and she said she doesn't plan on it. I feel the same way. She had told me that she loves being with me and she always has fun. We haven't had sex yet; she said she wanted to make the first time special. So we've just messed around. I usually call her after I get out of work, and I pick her up or stay at her house and watch dvds.

 

The other night I brought up my friends name (the one she dated) in a conversation. She got all quiet and told me that she still feels hurt. Last night, she was acting strange and said that she feels bad that she still feels hurt, and she should be focusing on our situation. I told her that if she has mixed feelings she should take some time to figure it out. She said that she just over analyzes too much and feels a little unsure sometimes. My final statement was that if she is just hurt, that's one thing but if she still has feelings for the other guy, then she needs to tell me and I'll be on my way. Later one, she asked me to come in and we messed around, but she didn't ask me to sleep over as usual. Am I being too clingy (she is just as intent to hang out every night as I am)//we're both loner types who don't really like to hang out with many people? Should I back off wihout stating my reasons to give her some time to miss me and think about what she wants? Can anyone offer some advice??? Thanks!