TUDOR Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 So who out there feels as though they have to entertain their s/o. Maybe they don't have many friends so they have latched on to your's, maybe because they dont' have any friends they feel the need to be your shadow. *Tudor raises hand* arggggg where's my scotch? Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Whats wrong T, wife getting too clingy?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TUDOR Posted June 29, 2006 Author Share Posted June 29, 2006 Whats wrong T' date=' wife getting too clingy?? [/quote'] You know I enjoy the company of the wife, sexy...nice to look at, fun to party with, good conversation etc...but couples are still individuals that need some individual time without the other having to tag along for everything. For crying out loud she wants to go with me to play golf and drive the cart! Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 You know I enjoy the company of the wife, sexy...nice to look at, fun to party with, good conversation etc...but couples are still individuals that need some individual time without the other having to tag along for everything. For crying out load she wants to go with me to play golf and drive the cart! LOL! Why does that remind me of a My Wife and Kids? I agree, individuals in a relationship need time on their own. I am the kind of person where I love to be social, I love going out and I love having people I like around me, but when I need time alone... I need it right then!! So I can relate. I also like going out with just me and my girl friends!! SO is gone alot though so we actually don't get enough time together. We have the opposite problem you guys do. Have you talked to her about this? Maybe mention her and her friends should hook up and have a girls day or night out? Does she not have any other friends besides you? Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Haha, aww Tudor how sweet! Link to post Share on other sites
Author TUDOR Posted June 29, 2006 Author Share Posted June 29, 2006 Have you talked to her about this? Maybe mention her and her friends should hook up and have a girls day or night out? Does she not have any other friends besides you? This seems to be a big route of the problem....no she doesn't have any friends. She has one really good friend that had a baby and now never available. So she has befriended all my friends which is great but now that leaves me with her always there. I'm really just venting....its not a major problem. I just don't paticular like having a shadow. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Tudor get her and the friend monthly spa gift certs, movie tickets, or send them off to watch a play...... Explain it this way: I know you really miss your friend, and I want you to have a good time with her. You could join some type of org. together that she is really interested in and then you could quietly back out once she is very involved and starts making friends there. Link to post Share on other sites
slinkysu Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Why not encourage her to get out more by signing her up for an evening class for something she likes - book club, sewing class, scrap booking class, pottery, life drawing, mechanics....anything at all that she may have shown an interest in. Or else teach her to play golf and then sign her up to a women's tournament and get her to play with other people? Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 You know I enjoy the company of the wife, sexy...nice to look at, fun to party with, good conversation etc...but couples are still individuals that need some individual time without the other having to tag along for everything. For crying out loud she wants to go with me to play golf and drive the cart! LOL my hubby would love it if I asked to go with him golfing. He usually goes with his buddies, but he did mention he wouldn't mind me going some time. He also told me, HE would be driving the cart:mad: because when we went years ago, I turned the cart over going down a hill! Well forget it then, thats the whole reason I was going MR. Let her go with you, and see how she likes it. Has she ever been before? Maybe she will hate it and wont want to go back with you. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 arggggg where's my scotch? I like Oban myself. What do you drink TUDOR? Glenlivit? Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Tudor, I feel you I had an ex like that. I myself am all for individual time and couple time. But sometimes you just need to get away from your mate. My BF & I do seperate things because we have different intrests but we both have a lot of friends. Maybe get her involed in a club or class so she can meet new friends. I am surprised she didn't make any in school. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 I have had a few partners like that. I am a pretty solitary person and I like my alone time, so I tend to get cast as the emotionally distant partner and I tend to attract men who like to chase after that. I've had partners ask that I caddy for them on the golf course (what?), sit in the car while they drive to the effing convenience store, everything. It does get annoying, but you have to think that just means they are trying to share your life, and maybe you are emotionally distant with them and this is their reaction to it. I'm thinking that you're either frustrated by seeing her face all the time, but IME you can work through it and on the other side you either know that you definately are meant to be with that person if you can endure seeing their ugly mug 24/7, or that you have grown apart and that partner is just frantically trying to preserve the relationship. But I've never been able to tell the difference until I got to the end of the tunnel. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 I'd rather stick needles into my eyes than play golf Needy partners are such a pain in the ass I rather have an independent one. Maybe you and her are just going through an adjustment period. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 I'd rather stick needles into my eyes than play golf OUCH! I prefer putt putt myself. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 I think it's pretty damn boring myself. But when I went I tried playing and it was ok when I actually got to hit balls I also play frisbee golf and that is MUCH more fun. Who doesn't like to throw frisbees? And you don't use carts for that game, you ahve to hoof it, so you get more exercise. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 ooh I love frisbee. I dated a guy who was obsessed with Frisbee golf. WTF is that! I have a temper I would be the person throwing thier clubs around. Mini golf is for me or tennis. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 You chuck frisbees at baskets. I played frisbee golf in Namur, Belgium. It's really big in France and the Netherlands. It was fun, and the discs are shaped differently. Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 I think it's pretty damn boring myself. But when I went I tried playing and it was ok when I actually got to hit balls I also play frisbee golf and that is MUCH more fun. Who doesn't like to throw frisbees? And you don't use carts for that game, you ahve to hoof it, so you get more exercise. I agree with BO would bore me to death! I don't get what so fun hitting a a ball. To each's own . I rather be shopping . Might be exercise but i get plenty enough with morning cardio and weights , trampoline and riding bikes. Tudor maybe she wants to see if there are women there . Some women play golf . I know a couple that love to play golf . Link to post Share on other sites
Kenyth Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 I've played it. Redstone Arsenal Alabama (military post) had an impressive nature FG course. The baskets had hanging chains above them to "catch" the frisbees. Fun! Anyway, just be thankful your SO is still interested in you. Many of us (Me!) have the problem that our SO's are a bit distant. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 I agree with BO would bore me to death! I don't get what so fun hitting a a ball. To each's own . I rather be shopping . Might be exercise but i get plenty enough with morning cardio and weights , trampoline and riding bikes. Tudor maybe she wants to see if there are women there . Some women play golf . I know a couple that love to play golf . Gawd, "maybe she thinks there are women there?" I would think or at least hope his wife would know there are women who play golf as well. Why is it that some people think that if a mans wife wants to join him in an acitivty he likes, its that she wants to go along to check up on him? Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Gawd, "maybe she thinks there are women there?" I would think or at least hope his wife would know there are women who play golf as well. Why is it that some people think that if a mans wife wants to join him in an acitivty he likes, its that she wants to go along to check up on him? Maybe it is she wants to be involved in activities he likes . But some women like to check up on their spouses and SO! Sorry but it is true . Link to post Share on other sites
Author TUDOR Posted June 29, 2006 Author Share Posted June 29, 2006 I like Oban myself. What do you drink TUDOR? Glenlivit? Any of the Glens are good, Glenlivit, fiddich, etc. OBan is tastey too! Just not big on Chivas or Dewar's etc. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Maybe it is she wants to be involved in activities he likes . But some women like to check up on their spouses and SO! Sorry but it is true . I don't think any woman "LIKES" to check up on their spouse. If they do its maybe because they feel the have reason too. Even then its not a "LIKE". Unless the OP indicated thats was why and that he was doing something he shouldn't, then I wouldn't assume thats why she wanted to go. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 Maybe it is she wants to be involved in activities he likes . But some women like to check up on their spouses and SO! Sorry but it is true . Tudor, Is it possible she is thinking she may need to check up on you or is suspicious of you cheating on her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TUDOR Posted June 29, 2006 Author Share Posted June 29, 2006 It's not about checking up on me or any kind of trust issues. It is very simple, she just has no friends and has beome totally reliant on me to entertain her. And I love that she wants to hang out with me and be involved in the things I do but at some point couples still need to have their space. Not because they are tired of being with their spouse all the time but I think it is much like a parent needing to be around some adults after spending all day with kids. You just need some other stimulation, other point of views, down time, time to think, time to relax, time to miss your spouse. I guess the problem lies in the fact that I can never do anything for myself that I have to consider what about her, what will she do if I go do this or that. Which I guess you are always suppose to consider the spouse in your decision making but I don't think you should feel guilty because they don't have any options and don't seem to make an effort to have their own things to do. Link to post Share on other sites
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